URGENT ***** How do I tell my parents? ***** URGENT

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Ok, please bare with me this is hard for me to say, I'm starting to not want to go out and well be kind of afraid of anywhere outside my house, however this is happening slowly over time and I think I might break the news to my parents tonight or tomorrow but I don't know how, and I feel ashamed because of this pls reply back asap I need this!

Do you think you might have agoraphobia? It sounds like you do; check this out:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agoraphobia

You have nothing to be ashamed of! Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder, and there are many effective treatment methods available, including various types of therapy (like cognitive behavioral therapy) and/or medication. If you only recently have been experiencing this, you are in an excellent position to deal with the issue.

I hope your parents are intelligent, kind and supportive and will help you access services. If not, please find another trustworthy adult, like a teacher, coach, or clergyperson, who will help you.

I started having trouble making myself go out of the house a few years ago, so I asked my Dr for a referral to a therapist and my father agreed to drive me to the sessions every week - your parents might be equally supportive, you never know. My father never wanted to know me, only my brother, but he still stepped up to the plate and helped me out when I needed it. Tell your folks, they might be better about it than you expect.

I know this doesn't suggest how to tell your parents, only that it might go well. I just approached my father and let him know I thought I had developed an anxiety disorder that was making it hard for me to leave the house, then I asked for what I wanted, but I know some people have a harder time with this than I do. My father had noticed I was having worse attendance at work and was wondering what the problem was, so he was kind of relieved to know what was going on with me. What can your folks do worse than just say "no, we aren't able to do that"? Then you will be no worse off than you are right now and will not have to worry about telling them any more, so you'll actually be better off.

We here in Eastern Massachusetts have a handicapped transportation service that my Dr filled out a form for me to qualify for, but you'd still have to propel yourself out of the door to the car or van they send you. Still, the driver comes up to the door and knocks, so you'd just have to answer the door and you'd have a "safe person" to accompany you to and from the car or van. I'd ask mom & dad first, though, cuz you have to wait awhile for your pickup with the HP transport and mom/dad will get you back home safe and sound much sooner after your appt.

Whatever the diagnosis, I hope you'll see a mental health professional quickly. It does sound like agoraphobia or another, similar anxiety disorder, but let the professional do the job. That person can also offer advice on telling your parents, and how to manage and even eliminate the condition.

The "nice" thing about anxiety disorders, particularly phobias, is that they are highly treatable in many cases, and can disappear as quickly as they appear.

Hope you're out and about soon.

Ok so there thinking of sending me to a psych-hospital, and when I was angry earlier I said o was fine to go but, now I'm terrified and don't want to go, now unless a good plan is made I'm going to have to go. But let me say this I will run away before I go to the hospital, the problem we have is we get into visious and feeling hurtful fights alot, pls help!?!?!