That's the thing. You have Aspergers. You can't "get over" things. They stay in your amygdala. Since primary school I have been told to "let it go" etc. I have tried all manner of teachers, career advisors, government counsellors, Salvation army counsellors, Lifeline, uni counsellors, tried to find answers in Calvinist theology, "healing" services, Arminian pastors, psychologists, psychiatrists, self-help gurus, neuro-associative conditioning, neural linguistic programming, self-hypnosis guides...... that's just the way Aspergers works. They have been able to selectively remove memories in lab mice, but that's no good to us, we are the way we are