Random Rantings about parents

Post Reply New Topic

I really, really, really, really, REALLY! Hate my parents. I am 22 and living with my parents because I cannot find a job that pays well enough to help me move out. Let me detail their "crimes":

#1: My dad, every night, knocks on my door to say "good night; I love you." While this may appear sweet and all, I have to refocus what I am doing and then focus again. I find this horribly disruption. Additionally, I feel pressured to respond to him, even if I do not feel like I love him at the moment (IE, I am mad at him or something), or even if I am hyperfocused on something else. The whole purpose of me being in my room is to be LEFT ALONE! No knocking on my door! No nothing. I go to my room to escape YOU! Why would you want to disturb me.

#2: The other day, my mom went out shopping. I asked her if she got a drink I wanted. She said no. I said, "Well, we're out of it." It then became me disparaging her shopping skills. That had NOTHING to do with that! All I was doing was stating a fact! >.<

#3: I can't communicate, erm, "properly" with my mom. I am constantly being told to grow up, or not to run in the house or something like that. I watch TV at night only one day of the week, and being told I had to negotiate with my mom about what day gave me knots in my stomach :'(

#4: My mom always brings up stuff that I have forgotten to do. If I'm going on an interview, for instance, I get "What's the dress code." I say, "I don't know." "Well, you should have asked."
EXCUSE ME! It is MY life, not yours. It is MY decision as to what questions I ask a potential employer, or anyone else like that. The fact that I am constantly being told that I have forgotten something (on even the most mundane of things) makes me feel horribly inadequate. I *should* have done nothing. "Oh, well, ask tomorrow." Again! I! Do not! Have to do! Anything! I am tired of being made to feel horribly inadequate.

#5: My dad is telling me that I have a preoccupation for what we're having for dinner. I am NOT having a preoccupation. I am simply asking so I know whether we are eating a decent time or not. Today, I was told I would have to wait until later because my mom wanted to "relax" after a hard day's work. That, in itself, is completely a legitimate thing to do after a hard day's work. What is NOT acceptable (to me) is for you to tell me we're eating out, be under the assumption that I am eating when I get home, and THEN be told to wait for 3 hours. That is not fair to me as I do need fair warning to structure my schedule.

All of this, my mom's rather abrasive personality, the knocking on my door, EVERYTHING is causing me to have fits in my head and leaves me quite depressed and muttering things under my breath (negative things) about them.

:'(

I can relate or agree with pretty much everything listed.

I have Asperger's and a parent and all I have to say is grow up, you are 22 not 12, read about Piers Grandin on adapting to the real world, you are fortunate to have parents that actually care and love you and want whats best for you. Yes it's tough when you are hyper focusing on something and your interrupted but in real life it happens all the time.
It's a tough mean world out there full of mean people and they will say NO to you a lot, either you learn to cope and develop social skills or you will fail at everything you do.
Yes I'm being very mean and saying lot's of things you don't wish to hear but as a parent I understand them and you a very lucky to have such understanding parents. So when your mother forgets to get your favourite drink just remember a lot of people don't even have clean water.
Your parents want the best for you and you may not understand they are trying to make you independent enough to leave your home and prosper. Learn and appreciate them because they will not be around forever to protect you and help you.
This is a hard tough world and your issues are very small considering what a lot of other people in this world suffer through.

deleted, was being irrational at the time.

1) It's their house, not yours, they can be any way they want to be. You appear to just be freeloading there, at present.

2) It's their tv, you're lucky they let you watch it at all. If you don't want to discuss watching at a time that they find convenient, purchase your own tv.

3) Purchase and cook your own food, you're not five.

4) Be happy your father cares enough about you to tell you he does. You could have one that didn't, or no father at home at all. You mother reminds you about things most likely because she notices you have forgotten about them, and these are things (dress code, for example) that can make or break an interview.

5) Be happy you have parents who will let you live with them, with the attitude you're carrying around. Because if they tossed you out on your own, you'd be in for one hell of a rude awakening as to dealing with things that you find "bothersome".

6) If you hate it so much, leave. You'll figure out how to make a living when you absolutely have to.

7) Sorry I can't be more sympathetic, but you sound like I did when I was 18. And believe me, the rude awakenings are a jolt.

Do I hate my parents? No.

They did the best they could.

My IQ is much higher than either of them.

I was a problem child. I was a pain in the ass.

They loved me and did the best they knew how to do.