I created an internal world when I was a kid, a diversion...

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from adversities I felt powerless to change. That all changed about a decade ago, when a crush on a celebrity came to an end after about a year, and I felt truly bereft because I couldn't adapt to the change of moving on from that obsession to another one, let alone live without an all-consuming obsession. Ten years on, I've come to the ultimate realisation that all this mechanism ever seems to do for me is cause frustration, grief, underachievement and isolation in my real life. Yet I'm finding it really hard to leave my latest obsessions behind and concentrate on improving and accomplishing things for real.

For the record, my obsessions haven't all been about people. I'd rather not say what other things have fascinated me down the years, but really I just wondered if anyone here has experienced and conquered the same thing.

I get you. You've just fot to face your fears and grow stronger.

I've lived a large portion of my life inside my internal worlds, ignoring the world and people around me. It's really hard to escape that and live in the "real" world, and the struggle never ends, at least not in my admittedly limited experience. But the moments when you're actually able to talk to other people, have real friends, and maybe have a romantic relationship with another human being (this has yet to happen for me, but it could someday) are a lot happier then any internal world you can create in your own mind, and it makes every second of social agony worth it. There are more painful moments then happy ones, and in all likelihood it will be like that for the rest of my life. But when I look back on my life, all I feel about the time I spent internally is regret for the life I could have been leading. Not that there's anything wrong with just thinking or imagining things, I need a lot of alone time. But when you just do that all the time, the loneliness is a million times worse then the social agony you face by trying to live in the real world. I'm only eighteen so I'm probably not qualified to be giving this kind of advice, but in my experience it only gets easier with time.

On the contrary, RoemerMW - you seem to know where I'm coming from and be working on the transition from fantasy to real life that I should be making. Good luck with it .