i got depressed from going on facebook

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seeing all the NT's on my facebook friends lists looking like theyre having so much fun in their pictures made me depressed. i feel like i could have fun like them if i would just use small words and be conscious of my facial expressions, and stop taking life so seriously. i used to wish i could be an NT sooo bad. sorry to bother you.

should i delete my facebook?

Only you can make that decision. Just do whatever you think will help things.

hi tim tex!

I get the same way, but then I think of how I would feel actually doing the things that they are doing, like parties.I am a people watcher but not a socializer. I am actually suprised at how many Facebook friends that I have, when in the real world I'm not as social. I have caught up to some old high school people and I enjoy looking at their posts and pictures, and seeing what they are up to, I moved out of state 25 years ago and graduated high school 29 yrs ago, so it's interesting seeing how they are doing. But I do get discouraged when I see them having fun. I probably could be having fun if I enjoyed it.Like I said, I am a people watcher and enjoy looking at the pics. I always wonder what it would be like to be social, but I know I would be a mess at it. Keep your facebook page and don't check it unless you're happy or at least not depressed. If you don't miss checking it then you don't need it, But I would keep it. I am being treated for depression and some days I don't like facebook, but other days I enjoy it. Good luck and don't feel too discouraged, others of us feel the same way.
Gina

I have a Fb. And yeah, it does seem unfair at times. Lately I've just been ignoring it mostly. Just open a page every so often to see if anyone contacted me directly. Assuming they didn't, i close the page.

The internet is vast. I just find new things to keep me occupied.

Hi Boomshika.

I used to get bummed out looking at all those NT's who seem to enjoy parties and having so much fun too.

I got to realizing a while back that I also have fun - but not in the same way.

I remember when I was 22. I was still living at my parents house (we got along fine). I worked full time at an office job. My parents were out of town for the evening/night and I thought it would be grand to pick up some take out and watch a couple of videos that evening. I was excited and happy when I ordered and picked up my food (Chinese Yum!!) and I was cheerful as I picked out the videos I was going to enjoy that evening. It was not until later that evening, when I thought about it ... most people would find my Saturday night alone watching videos munching on Chinese take out pretty pathetic. Thinking about it bummed me out. The sad thing is - I didn't enjoy my evening like I could have.

Fast forward 16 years. I learn that I have a lot of Autistic traits. I also have a bit of maturity and acceptance. So what if I am not at cocktail parties and dances. I don't really like loud music anyway. So what if I happen to enjoy my own company (and that of my dear feline companion) when I have the house to myself. So what if I enjoy watching movies and eating Chinese take out? I am having fun in my own way. I enjoy my life, even if it is not something that would be photographed and made in a beer commercial.

Think of all the ways that you have fun. Maybe it is reading. Maybe it is doing a project or a hobby (alone or in a group) or ????. Your way of having fun is just as significant as the party people that you see on Facebook.

Canadian Rose That is awesome! I am the same way!! I love watching movies and eating my favorite food, so waht if I have eaten it 6 times this week and seen the movie 24 times. It is very fun to me and that's all that counts. I would choose that over a party anyday, Hey, a root canal comes close to a party for me!

I'm sort of going through the same thing, as well. I also find that they dress so sleazy and well, and the guys look like gangsters with their stupid backwards baseball caps and their bling. Why can't people just be themselves anymore. At least I'm not afraid to be myself. I'm even starting to dress like The Kinks, because that's my idea of looking my best and just being myself at the same time. I look at everybody's picture on face book and either they look like that, or they're carrying Canadian flags and watching hockey. I do admit that I have a Canadian flag in my apartment, but it's more for nostalgic purposes than patriotic purposes. That flag was first flown in 1965 and that's the year that my favourite band had most of their hit songs. I have it set up with a few things to tell the story of my favourite year, instead of with a bunch of other Canada stuff. The flag, writing on the cardboard, the peace sign, the Kinks picture that I've sketched as a 22 year old, and a package of London stickers. The people in facebook get too carried away with the patriotic stuff or the street clothes.

I used it for a few days then took it off, I find it so alienating, I don't
want people I may know in passing knowing what I am doing.

Why would you want to get off facebook?

You have a beautiful face. Leave it there.

Many of the NTs on facebook are simply window-dressing. They brag about things they've done or places they've been - and they think there's a competition for friends.

There's not.

Use facebook for what you want. You might make some new friends there - I know I have.

Don't be down. Use Facebook to work for you!
I'm very selective about who's on my friends list, and the vast majority are people who I know in real life, who accept me, and who I get on well with and socialise with. It's kind of a contact management tool for me.

I could let it get me down, like it did when I was introduced to it (all the people I studied with who were out having fun, all the people I was doing an internship programme with who were organising social events but who didn't invite me because I was out in a satellite office). But I don't. I figured out how to make it work the way I wanted it to, and now I use it for what I want it for.

That's all it is - a tool. So cheer up and do something productive with it that makes it work how you want it to.

nahh, i don't think you should delete it. in my experience running from a problem was usually regrettable, or either solved nothing.

it's okay to be self-conscious, even NTs share that problem .

when the big picture of your life can't coax a smile. then it's good to take comfort in the little things that do. but turning away from the big picture of your life can leave you blind to it. so always keep an eye in that direction. it may not always make you happy, but it's a healthy habit.

try listening to Float On by modest mouse maybe.
it's a good song