So WP posters, work with me in releasing my frustration...

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This needs some context and clarification: I took the tram from city center to my house today, and when I got on the tram and showed the ticket inspector my month ticket, he said to me, in what I perceived to be an irritated tone, that I should upload my month ticket on my public transport chip card. I told him that I was aware of this, and that the facility that provides me with these tickets hadn't installed the software with which they upload the free monthly travel I am entitled to. It's such a little insignificant thing to have an argument about, but the man was talking to me as if I were some kind of moron, so I wasn't going to stand there and take it. I didn't blow up or anything, but I was irritated the entire ride home.

Why then Cyclops, may you ask, are you posting this minor episode in The Haven? Well, that's because, as many of you will be aware, little irritations can build up and accumulate until they will finally erupt. My whole life, I have simply let this happen. My anger attacks have become fewer and farther between over the years, true, but they still happen. What I am requesting of you now, is a way to perhaps get rid of the frustration that I soaked up today. I also had a run-in with my family yesterday, which wasn't very pretty. It's cool between them and me now, but the irritation probably remains. What is the best way of not letting these insignificant events play a part in a possible future eruption of anger? Do any of you know of effective ways to blow off steam?

I realise that each of you will have different approaches, methods, or solutions, which may or may not overlap. I will read each post carefully, because frankly I am sick of letting my anger attacks rule me. I fancy myself a rational person, this problem should have a rational solution.

Thanks for reading. Going offline for a bit to engage in some other activities, will be on later tonight probably.

Shrug and literally say "meh".

Repeat this action everytime the thought of the incident crosses your mind.

I think the longer you live, the more these ikind of things pile up. You either have to start forgetting the or get crushed beneath them all.

Buddhist meditation works wonders for me. It helps you to become aware of your thoughts and the underlying processes through which they take control of our mind. And it helps you to do what Lene advised you. On its most basic level, it has nothing to do with religion and doesn't require a belief in the tenets of Buddhism in order for you to benefit from it.

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get a blog and gripe about it. it's really helpful.

I find that this is easier said than done, or I'm doing it wrong. I've been told to 'ignore things' as early as when I was five years old, by my mother initially. While I have gotten better at dealing with things that come at me, and I don't have quite such a short fuse as when I was a child, some things just keep sticking.

I have, however, considered that perhaps I should not take things personally, or feel insulted so quickly. But I also soak up irritations that aren't necessarily caused by other people. Like when things go against me, it can really demotivate me. I find I sometimes don't handle adversity very well. Rationally, I know that I could and should easily 'get over it'.
In the past, I have always thought I was far too impatient to try meditation.

I saw an advertisement in the newspaper, advertising tai chi classes rooted in taoism, which are set to begin soon. I was heavily considering joining this class even before my recent anger outbursts. I'm only familiar with taoism on the surface, having glanced at the Tao Te Ching once, but I'm willing to open myself up to new development of my own character. Do you think this would be a good alternative to Buddhist meditation? At the very least, I can always explore Buddhism later.

My mother also mentioned that I could try anger management training. Thoughts on this?

I'm afraid that I can't offer a solution to your problem as I have the same thing. Just one little thing after another then BOOM! If you are looking into anger management, make sure that they can adapt the course for your need because certain things might not work for people on the spectrum (or so I have been told). Another bit of advice... never try to read an anger management book... They are so sickeningly positive I ended up throwing one across the room! GAH! The one thing I am SLOWLY learning to do is focus on the positive things that happen during the day but blimey it's easier to say that than to do it!

I think tai chi chuan might help you if you stick with it for a while. By the way, whatever you decide to do, stick with it, only then you will see any results. I've only done tai chi a couple of times but I liked it a lot. You could try it and see if it works for you.

As for anger management training, I have no experience with it but I know it works for many people. You might want to give it a try, too. In the end you'll certainly find something that works best for you.