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Me and mom were having a discussion about my behavior and it was shocking. I tend to do my own thing mainly don't say hi not cheerful etc. and mom mention issues where I've laughed when my nephew grabbed a knife (couple months ago) She was saying I don't care if someone gets hurt and yet IMO she forgets to see I was worried over my sister having a busted lip (I thought it was broken bones at first so I was frantically trying to reach her) My friend's sister layed up in the hospital my sister (her friend) told me not to cry seeing her laying up in bed I started crying! I worried about my sister falling (sure I stood off to the side mute) but I don't show emotion like OMG upset when something happens but I'm not some cruel monster! I come off as rude mom will say hi and I don't even say anything back. I understand where she's coming from I seem to be just HERE and only seem to care if something relates to me (If I need to pick up a package OH can we go to X) but not they are going to Y so I have no interest in going there. Mom says this is selfish. I know overall I need to change my behavior ways or I'll screw up again in life but there's so much to deal with! Sure I know one thing at a time but sometimes I think I'll never be able to please my mother.

how 'bout starting small, by taking small ittybitty steps? work on changing a little thing, then another little thing, and before long you have made major progress. just a thought.

Have you considered trying to please your mother isn't exactly the healthiest thing you could be doing? You're not being really selfish, from what I can see.

Now, I don't know your interests, but lets say you're into computers, and you wanted to go to some high-tech opening of some new product. Would your mother want to go with it to you? It wouldn't interest her, so she'd turn it down. How is this any different?

From what you've put in your post, it seems you're a caring person who just has trouble expressing that care. Not unlike a lot of people on these forums.

Work on one thing at a time, and than move on to the next thing.