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Miyah
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22 Jun 2010, 10:39 pm

I have Asperger's Syndrome mixed with ADHD and I have always had the problem of getting hyper or talking non-stop. So, my friends try to invite me to things and the other person who is holding the event usually tells them not to invite me due to some stress on their lives at that time and maybe another time.

How can I handle this kind of rejection?



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22 Jun 2010, 11:00 pm

You could try not to bother with it, a lot of events can be stressful for Aspies. You save yourself a lot of tiring moments.

But it probably still hurts a lot not being invited...
You could tell your friends that you prefer to meet them another time.

Be strong.



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23 Jun 2010, 2:52 am

Miyah wrote:
I have Asperger's Syndrome mixed with ADHD and I have always had the problem of getting hyper or talking non-stop. So, my friends try to invite me to things and the other person who is holding the event usually tells them not to invite me due to some stress on their lives at that time and maybe another time.

How can I handle this kind of rejection?


I think you should just practice listening instead of talking more. Maybe try meditation or some type of biofeedback.

Then you hold an event, invite your friends and the other people, and show them your new not talking so much skills.



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23 Jun 2010, 3:08 am

Chronos wrote:
Miyah wrote:
I have Asperger's Syndrome mixed with ADHD and I have always had the problem of getting hyper or talking non-stop. So, my friends try to invite me to things and the other person who is holding the event usually tells them not to invite me due to some stress on their lives at that time and maybe another time.

How can I handle this kind of rejection?


I think you should just practice listening instead of talking more. Maybe try meditation or some type of biofeedback.

Then you hold an event, invite your friends and the other people, and show them your new not talking so much skills.


I'm really good at not-talking. Until someone decides they need to "pull me out of my shell" and starts asking questions and encouraging me to talk. And then the flood-gates open. I can either not-talk or talk-too-much. There seems to be no speech potentiometer in my brain.


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23 Jun 2010, 3:09 pm

I used to feel like a joke and call myself a joke, between the ages 25 and 32. I don't feel that way, anymore since I've been living on my own, for 4 years.


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24 Jun 2010, 12:20 pm

Also you could look for friends that are also talkative. My father is just like that. He has ADHD and is very talkative, always making jokes, talking with strangers etc... Yet he has many friends who also enjoy discussing topics, and talking a lot and are also energetic. Maybe it is not a bad thing, if you can control it a little. People always complained about me because I talked too little. Good luck.