Does my friend really mean it?

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The day before I typed this thread, I was taking storyboard class in university, a required class, and I was depressed because I was a slow learner compaired to my friends. And i was at the downside of my moodswing.

I then overreacted, and with out consiousness, wrote on the Facebook page of my faculty's wall. And i wrote tha tI was planning to drop out of university, to be in solitude and be able to sketch with perfection with out distractions. I was perhaps, too tedious for ruff sketching, I like to make sure lines and stuff were perfect, and that was a big drawback.

but the next morning, to check my facebook status, a good friend wrote " Go on! Go ahead! Great". I then melted. I was not sure if he really meant it, that I should drop out? Or if he was just kidding? I'm not sure...

I'm very depressed now and worried about it. He was one of the first friends I made when coming in college back in May 2009. I don't want to lose our friendship. No one thinks I'm a looser, we all see each other as more of a family and we respect each other as a huge group. I never mentioned about me having asperger's, I just wanted to not blow things...

I feel guilty for what I have done, everybody does stupid careless things once in a while. I try to escape mistakes 24/7, avoiding failing all the time. Trying to be perfect. Any advice?

It sounds to me like your friend was joking.

My advice (speaking from experience as someone who has done this sort of thing many times): Move past it. Act as if it never happened. If this person really is your friend, they already know about the mood swings. If they're not, there's nothing you can do about it.

The danger I encounter is that I keep trying to fix these situations with words. Most of the time you can't fix these situations with words. You fix these situations by sweeping them under the rug and moving on. It runs contrary to our nature, but it's how most people are accustomed to operating. They keep moving. They don't linger.

Bottom line: For better or worse, this friend knows you better. And you deserve to surround yourself with people who like you for who you are (a group that may well include this friend, from the sounds of it).


Cheers,

TH

It looks like your friend was using sarcasm. My least favourite type of humour.