My dad is an a**hole

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Sorry, this is just a bit of a rant. Recently I felt the need to get some things off my chest.

The long and short of it is, my dad is an a**hole: a selfish, bullying, lazy, short-tempered a**hole.

1. He very rarely leaves the confines of his bed, except to watch TV/movies or listen to music. As such, he usually asks that he have breakfast in bed, and goes into a tantrum whenever anyone suggests otherwise. Even when he's on the same floor as us, he usually asks that we fetch him things in order to spare him the physical effort. I should add that he does NOT have any debilitating conditions that prohibit him from doing so himself, the fat f**k.
2. He all too willingly scoffs at everything I, my sister or my mom are interested in, and seems to be of the notion that all of our likes, interests and beliefs are somehow sub-par.
3. He flies into temper tantrums at the smallest thing. Recently, when the cable wasn't responding for some reason, he flew into a rage, blamed me, and when I tried to help him, told me to f**k off and get lost. He continued to rage over the cable until my mom pressed the right buttons to fix it. The worst part was, the whole time he was acting like I'd done this to him deliberately.
4. I'm 24, my sister is 22, and yet my dad insists on treating us like little kids, including getting angry at us when we're out later than he percieves we should be. And at the same time, he yells at us for behaving immaturely (oh the f*****g irony).
5. When confronted over his behaviour, he'll simply rage, yell "Oh right, it's MY fault!" and go sulk in his room.

Sorry, as I said, I needed to get some of that off my chest, especially since I recently had an altercation with him. I'm hoping to move out as soon as I can, but in the meantime, any ideas on how I can cope with him, or, somehow, get along better with him? I'm tired of catering to his laziness, I;m tired of all the shouting matches whenever I stand up to him, and I'm tired of having to f*****g deal with him.

Sounds like it is time to get your own place.

mine too, he knows exactly what to say to piss me off and he habitually does this

I felt the same way about my dad, when I was your age. Now I get along with him. I also think that you should move out.

I think I should as well.

I certainly hope my feelings towards my dad turn out the same way as yours did, CR. I don't particularly like having such negative feelings toward my own father, and wish/hope somehow I can fix my relationship with him.

Know that you are a good son. Your father may not notice it now but eventually he will realize what all you did for him and how you helped him. Don't give in to negativity. Stay positive. He is your father. Love him no matter what and you will rise above. I think you maybe only noticing the bad things about your dad. Try to find the positives and there will be more positives.