Cleaning issue.

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Today as most days I just did dishes/laundry. Dad came home mad OMG what did you do today why isn't trashed picked up etc. (down my throat) Mom called and I asked did you want me to put the stew on (Put it in the crockpot and start cooking it) (that was about 2:30) She said you were supposed to do that at 10!! ! I NEVER REMEMBER her TELLING ME THAT!! !! She sighed/huffed and then talk to dad. once again they've threatened not to give me part of my SSID check since OMG the house is a mess etc. Dad is always like IF YOU DIDN'T GET A PENNY THIS HOUSE WOULD BE SPOTLESS WOULDN'T IT!! !! I swear the man has OCD tendencies he's MR. CLEAN FREAK! OMG!! !! !! !! !! !! The stew was miscommunication and I feel bad I already got dad mad at me now mom!! !! I some times feel I can never amount to anything!! !! ! Dad is always like OMG! Did you just sit around watching tv/playing videogmames?! !! !! and yet I'm confused!! !! There will be weekends where I get up at say 10AM and family is like we already cleaned we're relaxing (and I'm ready to clean) OR it's a boring rainy day "Oh Brandy go watch tv or play a videogame."

So when it's CONVENIENT FOR THEM! They are bored it's a bored rainy day etc. tv/videogames are OK! but when I take time to relax! OMG! It's an issue FOR GOD SAKE I took an hour to watch a show then started making up my bed then dad came in all down my throat!! ! SHEESH!! !! !! ! YES I tend to only do the bare essentials but FOR GOD SAKE WHAT ELSE IS THERE! HOLY s**t! I didn't clean off the table with junk on it!! OMG!! I did the dishes and laundry WHAT ELSE MAJOR IS THERE!! !! DAMN IT!! !! ! So just now I ran around cleaning the bathroom depsite them being cleaned this weekend! and brought the clothes in from outside on the laundry rack. I still have laundry going but I hate how my parents jump at me like this!! !! ! I can do college work fairly well/ok yet when it comes to a spotless house I don't HAVE OCD or anything Obessiveness to clean OK!! !! ! I can walk in my room! I DON'T GIVE A DAMN IF THERE ARE SPECKS ON THE FLOOR AND I HAVEN'T VACCUMED IN WEEKS OK!! !! !! !! !! !! I more obsessive over College my finances than cleaning!! !! !! I hope some of you guys understand where I'm coming from.

i do. My parents would go out to drink, come back and if the dinner wasn't ready, YELL at me for hours because it didn't feel like we were a family and i didn't care about them and i was a b***h. then for a week it would be misery. A week later they would go out to drink and i would cook dinner and wait for them "because we are supposed to be a family", they came back drunk at 1 am and YELLED at me that i was less independant than my 12 y old sister and wtf couldn't i survive without them, couldn't i cook for myself and eat and go to bed like a normal human being instead of waiting like a dog?
they also used to wake me up at 4 o clock on a school day, drunk, demanding i clean the whole house before going to school. so i know what you mean.
is there no way that you could live on your own? they seem toxic to me. stop blaming yourself. Do what i used to do , every night make a debriefing of the day with yourself. what was your fault, and what was unreasonable behaviour on their part? make lists in your head, and build up some opinion about who they truly are. then take the steps to set yourself free.

Yeah, I thought my mom had OCD.. now I believe she had OCPD which is striving for perfection. I remember one time she wanted me to straighten out the curtains in the living room so I go in there and do it. She knocks on my door, starts slapping me across the head because apparently they aren't straight. Yelling and cussing at me over petty nonsense.

She'd get in my face over that type of crap all the time, very hostile environment.


I'm not neat whatsoever and my attention to detail with such things is utter crap. As long as an EFFORT is made, who the heck could get so mad over nonsense? Heck.. why would anyone get so mad period?

I guess the easy answer is to get your own place.

well i lived at home til i was 26 and part of that time i was in college and working part time. i would always get bitched at about my room and cleaning up around the house, etc. i did my part i believe to a good extent but still there were times when my father would freak out like you describe. unfortunately even though i was an adult, i was living in their house and so these types of arguments are quite common for adult children and adult parents to have especially in today's economy. the funny thing is that when you do move out on your own, sooner or later your parents will just love to have you staying over for the night. and then like i do now, you can give your parents s**t about how messy their house is and all they can do is just laugh and think OMG will they ever shut up and maybe they are right about the house being messy. if they get pissy and ask you to clean up their house just say no and enjoy the adult torment you are giving them as payback. its all in good fun of course. parents will always miss their children once they leave the nest and the extra help they provided all those years. its in their blood. so you just have to deal with it and hopefully it will all be alright. you will most likely not be living there forever, unless you choose to or have to, even though it might feel like it at times.

I lived by myself and dad came over and
beanhatched about my place being all dinkled
up and I just told him to go eat snot and boogers
and we got into a fight and I screamed back
at him and he left.

This happend so much I th*t he would kick
me out" he paid for the trash hole, so i thiot
he would, but when he did not I just th*t
he wants to just phunk with me all the time.

Finally I got sick of the whle thing and
said I'm moving with my brother and
I did.

There was another fit over it but I said
I am doing what I want to do, your my dad
but you can't boss me around any more.

But I think I just got lucky.

I always got on very well with my brother
so that made it a buttload easier.

Hard, sure. But the only way to do it is to do it. I took off at 17 and never looked back. Best decision I ever made.

Thanks for the replies. I agree with the threats might be nothing. They've also threatened to give me a smaller room (since the room I have now is the garage (made into a Studio). I agree with moving out as well I hope I can down the road. I'd like to get through Community College and go from there. They (as stated in many past posts) don't want me studying Psychology so I HAVE to do it at the University in a dorm (although technically I NEED to take Developmental Psychology at the CC to transfer to University so I'll see how life goes.) I definently don't plan on staying forever as someone else once said here and I agree somewhat they were shocked I hadn't commited suicide with all the s**t I have to put up with!! !! ! It's also funny when I move out I agree not having me for dishes/laundry just those basics will hurt. Them getting home at 3-4 in the afternoon no Brandy to clean the house THEY WILL have to do it themselves! That'll be a sight!! !! ! LOL! Just imagning it is funny. Thanks.