Dealing with the death of a friend and a terrible family...

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So I had a friend who is in his 80's who had cancer, I went to visit him as much as I was able to over the past few months an was there for him when he needed people most. He had been having a lot of trouble the past few months and his wife personally called me telling me that he wanted her to tell me specifically that he was having a lot more troubles and I said I would visit him in 2 days (the soonest I would be able to make it over), so it's two day later and I tell my mom that I want to go see him and how he's doing. and my little brother (who is a c**t) yells out "didn't he die two days ago?" At this moment I am going literally insane kicking the car door punching the windows (broke the window) and just having a meltdown because apparently my mother felt that it would be best not to tell me so that I didn't have a meltdown (great job b***h) so yeah... I'm currently dealing with the sudden news of that and how I absolutely hate my family for not telling me that he died the night I told them I was going to go see the in two days...

I had these things happen to me. But I'm a very sensitive person. One of my dad's business partners died of lung cancer, but my parents told me long after he died. They knew that I don't take death too well. I grieve over someone elses death and it makes me so sad. However, when my grandfather died my aunt called us the night he died. I think when one is close to someone and that someone dies, you should know about the death right away and not few days later. If my parents kept my grandfather's death a secret and not told me till days later I would be angry too since my grandfather was my family. I rather have someone tell me that so and so died on the day that person died. I got the news about my grandmother dying that same day and it was a long distance phone call from overseas.

After my accident and forced move to Missouri, I was angry that I never got a chance to say goodbye to my grandmother. We were very close, and I felt as though I had been cheated. I realize now that she probably didn't want me to see her suffering, because the toll would be large.

Oh god, that's awful. I'm so sorry. I hope you make it to your friend's funeral.

You have every right to be pissed off at your mum and brother; both keeping it hidden and then blabbing it out were very thoughtless acts. They may not have intended to be malicious though. People can be incredibly stupid when it comes to sensitive stuff.