How do you let go of the past?

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Outside of the whole college ordeal (which I thought actually being BACK in college) would help me "heal" forget/recover from it. UH NO! I also have another issue from my past. My 2 little sisters are in Elementary school and I hate going to there school functions since my Elementary experience was being bullied. (I automatically think of that issue of the past). I was considering going to the 9 year olds Holiday concert but wasn't sure. I tend to try to avoid the functions but since mom/dad everyone else is working I kind of feel bad and I can go (I'm only doing Online college and no job so I can get up early and attend).

Plus the whole tons of other parents thing. (I'm not good around others usually. I assume just go keep my mouth shut and see the concernt (perhaps videotape it with a camcorder). It's odd in audiences I'm not good but crowds like Black Friday I can chat it up with fellow customers and run around the "maze" of people like an expert mouse LOL! (which my sister hated this past BF) she was like OMG! why are you running!! ! (As yall know my family always seem to find a behavior to pick on.)

I don't know if I can help but maybe changing how one thinks of the past can change its influence on the present. The 20th century philosopher Alan Watts talked about how the past does not cause the present; the present causes the past. Each present moment becomes the past like the wake of a ship trails behind the ship, but the wake doesn't push the ship. It is very easy to feel a prisoner of one's past, but according to many spiritual teachings that is an illusion and we have the power to change how we think in the present moment.

The Hindus call the creative illusion Maya and teach to see beyond that and not be deceived. Some Buddhists don't think reincarnation means you come back in another body after you die. Instead some Buddhists say that reincarnation means that if you link all your moments in a chain and think you are the same person you were five minutes ago, you are being reincarnated. T.S. Eliot also expresses this idea in his poem The Four Quartets.

An oriental sage once remarked that Spring does not become Summer. First there is Spring, then there is Summer. Each season is in its place. In just that way, the you of yesterday does not become the you of today.

I hope this helps. Learning these different perspectives sure stretched my mind.

I don't - but I do not recommend it.

How awesome is it that a new Zelda is coming out in four months?

I've been dealing with a lot of issues from my past. My jealousy of my strong and feminine, younger sister cropped up. Mick Avory II can't handle it. She's too sensitive. I know that my mum favours my sister, because they both like the same things. There is nothing I can do about it. I'm going to have to deal with that, and move on. My mum and sister can have their girl time, together on Canada Day and Mother's Day.

I can't. I try me best to distract myself however, and let it run its course. Of course a lot of them take years to mostly get over.

Letting go of the past happens with time. For example, my ex-girlfriend. Have I moved on? Yes. Have I gotten over her? Somewhat. I still care about her, and I always will, but I know it's best for both of us if we go our own separate ways.

So letting go doesn't happen overnight, and it's not supposed to. It happens gradually, and the best way to do that is to just RELAX and focus on the present.

I don't know.

I can't seem to. I'm sorry you can't either.

Here's what I think:

"You don't let go of the past, the past lets go of you"

The past doesn't exist because time doesn't exist. Everything makes a person who they are. You are just an accumulation of bad moments and good moments. The more you get through the bad moments the more the good moments grow into lasting bliss. Most people are too weak to get through the bad moments, so they call it quits, or they think that they call it quits. You can never escape your problems, not even through suicide, the universe will force you to understand who you are.

You have to hold onto something. You can hold onto the past. Or to the present. Or to the future.

My nature is to be a future oriented person. As a result I have a very poor memory for past events. There are some things about my past that still bug me, but mostly I look toward things I will be doing. I work in the present to prepare for things I want to do in the future. the past is what it is and I can't change it. All I can do is use it to help me get to some future state where I want to be. (Maybe Utah)

It may not be easy to change what part of your life you focus on. Perhaps when you catch yourself thinking too much of the past, remind yourself that the present should be lived actively and there are things you can do now that will make your future better. It takes reminding yourself over and over to look forward or around you rather than back, but perhaps with repetition, you can change your habits.