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I recently returned to school after 3 years of home/cyber schooling and everything has been a success. I have a gf that everyone says is a level above the rest, most of my grades are good, and I even started wrestling. That last part is now my problem.

Now when I returned I thought wrestling would be a good idea: I would learn a skill, meet people, and get in shape. However, what I didn't think about was that practice is five days a week, the matches have loud shouting and whistles that pierce the ears. It is just pretty overwhealming. We are halfway through the season and my record is 3-11. I suck but besides that I honestly don't know if I can make another month or depending on how the cards fall (God forbid) two months.

The thing that annoys me the most is that when I go out on the mat I get soooo nervous I forget everything I have been told. The only reason I have not quit is because I do feel sorta guilty and my father (who is not living with us since he had to move to get a job and make money for my fam) keeps telling me he is so proud. I just feel like I have bitten off more than I could chew. I guess there is a lesson to be learned.....So what do I do?????

what is the problem?

You have to do what is in your heart. Whatever makes you happy is really what you came here to do. No one will be disappointed in you. Everything will eventually fall into place if you follow your heart.

I think it is more important that you feel all right with your hobbies than what people think about you. Practices five days a week plus competitions sounds like a lot of time to me. If you don't enjoy what you are doing, you could probably use that time for something else you enjoy more and thus can draw more strength from.

If you don't want to quit wrestling because you do enjoy it and you just can't stand the competitions, maybe you could talk your coach and ask him/her whether you could stay on but not participate in competitions anymore. You needn't mention your being on the spectrum for that. Just tell him/her that you really apprecciate wrestling as a way to stay fit and spend time with your peers, but that the competitions unsettle you and the stress there is too much for you. From what you told, it does not sound like your not wrestling in competitions anymore would be a major loss to the team, but they might still apprecciate your being around for sparring.

If you continue on with something you no longer want to be apart of you will be disappointing only one person, yourself. Everyone else should be supportive of you and encourage you to go out for something different, something that works for you.

If your hearts not in it it's not fair to you or your teammates either for you to try to stick it out because you're worried of letting others down.