I'm similar to a dog

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I'm very much like a dog in the fact that I'm a very loyal and faithful friend and once you have my trust, even if you abuse it later on, you have it forever

is this a good thing? because im too inexperienced with friendships to tell

You're being hard on yourself King if you compare with a dog. You shouldn't have that view. If somebody abuses you, you shouldn't maintain the same level of trust, as they have proven themselves unworthy. You can still maintain a relationship with them but be aware of where they stand.

the majority of my friends abuse me in some way usually emotionally but im too submissive to stand up for myself everyday on my way to school i rehearse what im gonna say to them but when it comes time i cant i dont know why

You can. And the day you do is the day that stuff stops happening.

oh trust me i try i have every day for the past idk 4-5 years but i cant seem to be able to stand up for myself my only true friend Cheyenne is the only other person who knows this but me and her are the same we are both too submissive

As long as you say you can't, you can't.

hey i seriously do try but idk i think i have some sort of like mental block or something because when it comes time to i cant

its kinda like getting a girlfriend for me(i have NEVER had one) i try..........but im always unsuccessful

im not a bad guy though so why do i always lose and never get the girl? seriously! *megamind reference*

but yeah i always know what im going to say to my "friends" but when i try i freeze up and cant seem to get the words out properly and when they see me cry afterwards it makes things worse cuz then they make fun of me for that Cheyenne is the only one who doesnt

This is funny: The neighbourhood dogs all started barking when I clicked on this post!

lol how appropriate! i love your signature BTW

Thanks!

your welcome

These people are not your friends. Maybe you should ask yourself why you even spend time with them.

Fortunately I never really had this problem. I'm fine being alone. Give me a book and I can ignore just about anything. That and I have an over developed sense of right and wrong, which means I will make noise if someone is being mistreated.

My mom gets on me about my antisocialness by saying "What are you an animal?! Even animal like people!" She's always referring to the four small but dumb dogs in our house.

double post, my bad

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I've always tied that trait together with willingness to do volunteer work/help others out - something you have in abundance, from what you've said. It's something of a package deal, for better or worse.

You probably do have some kind of mental block that prevents you from doing something about them. If you can figure why you have the mental block, then the rest will be easy. Could be that you feel that you are incapable of doing anything about them. Could be a fear of what would happen if you did. If you can identify the cause of the mental block then you can decide what to do about it.

The most important thing is have faith in yourself. People are too hard on themselves for not standing up to someone or any other thing in their life. Being too hard just feeds the mental block and make it worse. If you do not stand up to them today, then say to yourself "That is alright, I will figure out the problem and try again". It may take a while to get the point where you do something, but then you feel good about yourself for doing it.

As far as girlfriends are concern, join the group of people who thought they would never have one. Let alone marriage and spending the rest of their life with that girlfriend. I can count on one hand the number of girlfriends I have had in my life. It was not easy. But it will be worth the wait when you do find a girlfriend and spend the rest of your life with them (a even scary thought than thinking you will never find a girlfriend )

Just be yourself when trying to find a girlfriend. If the girlfriend is right for you, they will accept you as you are right now. If you try to be what you think they want in a person then you will lose the girlfriend when they find out who you really are. Being dishonest is not a good basis for any kind of relationship.

Just my thoughts