Why do I keep bothering?

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I was going to kill myself two years ago. My mom talked me out of it by promising that things would get better if I give them time. So tell me: are two years enough time?
Nothing ever gets better.

The challenging situations that we face may not change, but what can change is how we choose to respond to them and manage them...and learn from them!

I don't know what your situation may be, but I've gone through periods where I feel absolutely despondent, and I've learned that things only start to get better once I start believing that they can get better, and look for evidence that this world is indeed a wonderful place to be. If the things that you do and see on a daily basis are getting you down, try something new! Look at the stars, watch a documentary, volunteer at an animal shelter. the biggest obstacle to our own happiness is our own state of mind.

It's difficult to be hopeful when there are things outside of your control that don't seem to be getting any better. You need to look for small things that you can directly affect, whether it's learning something new, taking up and activity, or working on the issues in yourself that are giving you trouble. I know this is easier said than done, but you need to start small. Even taking a short walk might make you feel better, or listening to music, or making something, like a meal. Create these small moments every day and your days will become filled with small victories. Good luck to you.

Yall make it sound so f*****g easy with your "advice".

You're right, everything sucks and one should never make any attempt to improve things. Is that better?

Believe me, I know that everything sucks. Every day is a struggle just to get through the day. But the choice is to keep trying or just lie down and give up, and giving up is the more painful option.

If I've made it sound easy, then I've miscommunicated. Nothing about the original post suggests that there's an easy solution, and to answer his original question, I'd say that two years is not 'enough' time.

I made the assumption (perhaps wrongly) that when the original poster says that "nothing ever changes", it meant that he's already tried counselling and other avenues. I was simply offering him my perspective, as an Aspie who may share or have shared some of the same feelings and experiences, and who's somehow found happiness as a middle-aged adult.

I can only speak for myself, but I think in the same situation, having posted such a thread, I'd be open to whatever responses others are able to share, helpful or not.

To do no more than answer the question the OP asked: No, two years isn't enough time, at least not for everyone.

I spent most of my time in the years between eighteen and forty-five believing that life was worthless and nothing would ever get better. That was twenty-seven years corroded by misery and despair. Yet, now, my perspective on life has changed, and I'm grateful that I survived long enough to see that shift in the way I viewed everything. I actually find life worth living.

No, I can't guarantee that will happen to you. All I can do is tell you what happened to me. And it isn't easy saying it, because I went through a lot of agony on the way - and I know that while I was in that state, I would have hated anyone who said what I'm saying now, because I was unable to believe them. So I not only suspect I'll be attacked for this response, I actually understand and sympathise with those who attack me for it.

But in spite of that, it is the only answer I have to give.