Got in a fight with my friend (rant)

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I hate it when people project their issues onto me. I talk about something and someone else assumes I am talking about them when they have nothing to do with it. For example, I might be talking about my ex and how lazy he was when I was with him and then all of a sudden people with disabilities jump on me acting like I am being judgmental because they have issues themselves that keeps them from working lets say or other stuff that makes them seem lazy when I was only talking about my ex. I don't know those people nor their situations. I only knew my ex's because I was with him and they assume I am talking about them when I talk about my ex so they act like I am insulting them when I was not. It just makes me so mad and I am sick of it. So I finally snapped and my online friend happened to be the last person.

What happened was he brought up an old post of mine I said like over a year ago I have no memory of saying. Then I remembered it when he showed it to me but I do not remember where I said it at on the other forum. I don't know if it was before this one adult baby died or after. Well anyway my friend projected and acted like I was insulting him and telling him he can't do this or that. He isn't even an adult baby and he acted like I was talking about him when I wasn't. I was very annoyed he was projecting me so I sent him a PM since I was unable to express myself to him on IM because I didn't get the chance to tell him so I said it in PM when I found his name on the other forum. I just happened to be doing a search on the adult baby's name when I found my friend's thread and I decided to send him a PM about what he said to me on IM. He replied back and he called me today and I told him I would read it when I get the chance. Well big mistake. I read it and felt angry all over again, angry because he projected me and didn't get what I said to him. I hate brick walls, I hate it when people are a brick wall.

He typed in all caps in most of his message so I could hardly read it, only read little of it. For some reason lot of CAPS bothers my eyes and I have a hard time reading it. Now if there was a way I could uncap it, I would do that and read the message all the way but I got the idea it was the same stuff he has told me on IM many times when we speak. But I replied back and because I got all heated up again, I typed in caps except it wasn't long. Then below his message I type in letters like this. I was so mad I didn't even want to speak to him anymore so I told him to not call me ever again, not today not tomorrow, not next week never and don't send me a IM either. Reason why I want to avoid him is because I can't deal with this, the stress and then abandoning my baby because I have to be online to defend myself against him and I just can't do it. I don't want to use hours of my day ignoring my baby fighting in PM to my friend.

I don't care if he dumps me or not. I told him he can send me the same message back without caps and well I am too afraid to even read his reply if he sends me one because I don't want to get all upset and heated.


I hate it when people project onto me and make something be all about them when it's not. I hate it when people do it, hate it hate it hate it.

Then he tries and censors me because of what I wrote in my PM when I explained myself and I hate censorship when I can't defend myself. I have every friggen right. I am just so pissed. All because of an old post I made on a forum and he took it all personal and made it be about him when I was talking about an adult baby who has now passed away. He said I wasn't respecting the dead and said I insulted him when all I said in my old post was lot of adult babies hated this guy because he went out in public dressed like a baby and also the fact I explained to him why I said that. (No please don't turn this into a adult baby thread. If you want to know any details about this person or about the fetish, PM me)

Right now I am dealing with something in real life and I don't need this crap so I blocked him cowardly because I can't deal with it. I don't know how long of break I'd need from him. Oh yeah he even said in his PM he is not an adult baby, damn it, I wasn't even talking about him, he isn't one he says but he is acting like he is one by acting like this is all about him because why get insulted by something that isn't even about you? If you don't have the fetish, then the person isn't talking about you. How hard is that to comprehend? I am so sick of this nonsense people do by making something be all about them when it's not. If I talk about lazy people, damn it I am not talking about disabilities so knock it off. If someone talks about pregnant women being lazy and using it as an excuse and if you are on bed rest, then they are not talking about you.. They are talking about women who are not on bed rest nor limited from their pregnancy. If someone talks about people being lazy, they are talking about people without problems and if something causes you to not keep the house clean because you have bad feet lets say, then they are not talking about you so don't even project by talking about yourself making it all about you and taking offense to it acting like they are talking about you.

I am so sick of people projecting their issues onto others and me so I jumped all over in this rant.

Oh gosh this guy kinda reminds me of my ex in some ways cause well when my ex was nagging on me on how I like to go to concerts and acted like I go everyday and that oh me going to a concert is the end of the whole freaking world lets go set the house on fire and all that.

Well anyways, I remember her comparing that guy on the show Reba that loved football to my going to a concert, I told my mom about this and she told me you can't compare TV to real life and I was like that's true and I told my ex this too.

Another time she demanded me and her text periodically even after I told her hundreds of times over and over, again and again that when I bought my cellphone, I bought rules to go with it and my rules are, do not make my cellphone into a habit equivalent to a crack/cocaine addiction.

So then I texted her not from my cellphone but from my Yahoo as it was not gonna cost me to text from Yahoo itself, and of course she got really mad at me for enforcing the rules I made for my cellphone as I was not gonna change a rule, not even if she whined and cried like a whining crybaby that would never be able to survive jail or prison, I mean she thought I was too damn strict, and I am not that strict to begin with, but I do have my grandfather's mentality of toss out a pool table if the kids can't share it (yeah he did that when my dad and his brothers fought over the pool table and my grandpa was like if they can't share it, they can't have it).

My ex told me to get rid of my cellphone and I said I am not getting rid of something cause you don't like my rules, now I have a landline and my cellphone is for as needed use, not constant use, then she compared me to her evil pedophile step-dad by telling me that my reaction reminded her of her step-dad acting like she never does anything right.

I was like ugh I do not like getting compared to that damn pedophile that needs to be castrated, and I told her my mentality is not "you never do anything right." my mentality is "you are better than that, start acting like it."

My ex and her dad, her step-mom and others had to remind her that even though she like me is autistic, that she is not ret*d, quit acting like the perception people make of the r word.

Heck I use to even tell her if she doesn't quit being a lazy, all idiots who say autistic means ret*d are gonna be proved right (it usually takes 1 bad seed to make us all look bad too).

But nope she didn't listen, she acted like everything I had to say was one big damn joke worth laughing at, well this girl will not be laughing if she ends up in the slammer and guards start calling her a damn deaf ret*d for not listening to instructions and not following the rules (yeah I know it's not nice to call people the R word but I am sure there are jail guards that would do this to persons with listening problems, in an effort to pop open their refusing to listen ears).

Wow. Maybe you two need some space from each other. I understand your point. I'm also feelin' like, when people are saying stuff that could be taken in more than two ways, I don't always know what they're talking about, probably in less specific ways than what you're talking about, though. Then again, to jump off the handle like that in any situation is never cool. To over generalize is NEVER cool. It sucks when people freak out. Hope things work out for you. I hope you get what I'm saying.

Well I finally apologized to my friend. I sent him a PM and told him I was scared of reading his last PM and listening to his voice mail because I am afraid to get upset all over again. I acted irrational and didn't keep my word and that I want the topic to die because I can't deal with it and it's too stressful. I also said I needed some space because I am just scared to talk.

I hate these dramas. I hate it when I get into fights with my online friends. I have been in one with my mother when she said something to me and it upset me so much I didn't talk to her for four days. I remember I went a few weeks without talking to one of my online friends over a poll I posted here. I have been in one with my husband too and didn't want to talk to him for days either. But guess what, he was unaware of it when it happened and by the time he knew I was over it and talking to him again and all happy.

I don't know how my friend is going to react to my apology but he is a very forgiving person so I might luck out.