"I wish the f*****g kids were dead'

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is one of the things that my father said "to himself" this morning.

Well, it looks like he's over-"socialed" for one thing.

If you're living at home, and I have been living at home for the past two and a half years after 20+ years on my own, it's awkward. Doesn't mean it's bad, just means it's awkward.

Respite or just vacation with other relatives.

Over-"socialed"?

I'd say that wishing people were dead goes beyond awkward and into insane.

I don't have anywhere else to go.

Oh dear. I'm sorry you had to hear that. I'm sorry you have to be around someone who behaves so toxically, even if he is your dad. I'm sorry your dad is so miserable of course. Chalk it up to him being miserable for whatever reasons unrelated to you, I'm sure you and your sibling(s) are fantastic people. Any hope of living separately from him?

If I could get enough work to support myself, I'd be able to, but that is proving incredibly difficult.

He is miserable, but that's no excuse for taking it out on people who've done nothing wrong except have difficulty meeting adult milestones.

What are you looking for, exactly? Just a place to vent?

I need to know this before I respond.

I'm in your exact situation. Or similar. My parents are fed up with me not supporting myself. I can't though, I am too depressed to hold any kind of regular job. And anxious. And bad at interviewing. And without a real resume.

Anyway, what field are you interested in getting a job/jobs in? Maybe talking it over could bring up some new ideas? (You never know! It probably would for me.)

I know there's no excuse for your dad saying that. Sorry you have to be around that...if you are really afraid, of course, I'd tell a relative who doesn't live with you maybe?

I'm more looking for advice on how to get out of here.

My biggest barrier to getting a job is that employers are demanding years of experience for entry-level jobs.

I'm working toward a career in academia, but that's a long process. Right now I'm worried for my safety and just need a steady wage to be able to support myself.

Most employers around here seem to be offering only casual work, and demanding 24/7 availability for "up to 15 hours" of work per week.
I've applied for job after job, taken every bit of advice I can find about improving employability, and I'm still stuck here despite that fact that I know I could do a lot of jobs if I could just get one.

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Oh, okay. I don't have any advice on that. I don't know your capabilities or your area.

I'm sorry you had to hear your father say something like that.

Something like night fill at a supermarket would be good, as I am good at working unsupervised but bad at people.

If you are not made unable to work by depression/anxiety/etc., I can recommend to you dogsitting. I'm not sure if it's in high demand in Australia but dogsitting/-walking is in the U.S. at least in metro/city areas. Another idea I've had, something I would do if I had the talent: church organist/pianist. Not every day but steady work and pays pretty well from ads I've seen. You seem to be musically knowledgable so that came to mind.

If you really are afraid for your safety, I mean, if worse comes to worst... hopefully you have a relative you can tell?

It's like that in the UK. "20hrs over seven days, 7am-10pm" is a common sight in the JobCentre. And it's not just entry jobs either. Probably best to hammer the casual work scene for three years, then go self-employed. then move out

You could learn how to type and do numerical data entry and spreadsheets. Find a website on the internet that could teach you these skills. Then go for a data entry job, or do office filing. Noone else really wants to do these jobs, and if you are good at them the employer will love you, and love the fact that you can sit at a computer doing their monotonous dogsbody work. Just be quiet at work and they will peg you for a shy, conscientious person.

For some reason, I thought you were a music teacher.

Any reasons why your dad said that? Did he mean his own kids?

It's generally easier for someone with AS to be a rocket scientist.