I can't live without her.

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She is everything to me. We have so, so much in common. She used to send me texts like 'Haha, my mum keeps looking at me suspiciously whenever I go downstairs because I'm genuinely smiling. I miss feeling like this. You're an amazing person. I wish I met you earlier. Xxxxxx'

Now she says she never wants to see me again and wants to forget about me.

I love her.

What are her reasons for saying this?

She says because she doesn't like me anymore.

I acknowledge you have very strong feelings for this girl, and I'm very sorry things did not work out between you two. Teenage relationships usually don't last long. Most people go through a few breakups before they find that special someone.

I don't mean to minimize your feelings but I'm not sure what you are feeling is love. Young people are far more likely to feel lust. The difference between lust and love is a bit like the difference between cubic zirconia and a diamond. Cubic zirconia has a lot more sparkle. They're synthetic, so they are flawless, but they're not as hard as diamonds and don't hold up to the elements as well. Diamonds, on the other hand, don't sparkle quite as much. They are smaller and less dazzling, some are too small to see, and they often have flaws, but they endure a lot more.

I'm sure you will find someone in the future, who you are happy with and who is happy with you. She won't necessarily be someone who you have a lot of things in common with. Having a lot in common with someone doesn't always mean you two would make good partners. It's not an issue of quantity. Rather there are certain things that it's important to have in common with someone for a relationship to work and they usually pertain more to lifestyle and philosophies.



Love is not necessarily an intense emotion.

I tried to kill myself last night. I'll see if I can try again tonight.

young love is fickle, try not to get too caught up in it too soon.
you'll be ok again

You've lived without her before. You can't let your brain control you. They are just chemicals in your brain making you feel this way. Please call 1-800-273-TALK

I've never had a girlfriend before, but I've been sad and attempted to commit suicide few times. When I'm feeling sad I put my right hand over my heart and clench my fist. Then I tell myself that I will be stronger and will not be driven to sadness by any loss. Try it, you'll probably feel better.

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Hi robo37. I agree that you need to call an emergency service ASAP given that you tried to kill yourself and still want to.

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I understand. I am still obsessing over an ex who cut off contact with me almost a year ago. But no one is worth killing yourself over. I feel like a hypocrite typing those words but they are TRUE nonetheless. If I'd done that last year (which I considered) I would never have gone to Romania this year. My children would be without a mother. You NEVER know what the future holds and when you commit suicide you cut off positive as well as negative possibilities. I have to stick it out because I have children, so I have no choice. I can't do that to them. There may be people in your life who might be devastated by your death as well.

I might also tell you that I've seen people who have failed in suicide attempts. They often succeed in making their situations worse. So, please don't try that. If you can't do it alone, seek help. Call a suicide prevention hotline if you can't talk to anyone else. Whatever you do, stay alive.

~Kate

No girl is worth killing yourself over. Trust me.

Right now your brain is in withdraw from the "drugs" it produce while being in love. Like for drug withdraw at first you feeling greatly depressed, but giving time your brain and your body adapt itself from it's absence and you feel better. Not a very romantic conception, but this is true. Basically, with time you'll end up feeling better.

I'm alright. The police got me.

She phoned me recently and said she'll promise to think about being friends in the future if I promise to not contact her until then and keep myself safe, so I agreed and I'm now feeling a bit better now because of it.

I'm still feeling quite down, though. I feel like I want to talk to her so badly, but I can't. and I just wish this big mess never happened in the first place.

glad you're ok, it'll get easier

I don't have much to offer but *many many many hugs*

First of all, congratulations for keeping yourself safe. It's incredibly important to realise when you're being irrational, and it's definitely difficult to go on when you focus your 'world' on something that's not an absolute.

Everything feels like the end of the world at this age. But please, trust me (I know it's incredibly hard to believe when you feel this way!), that it WILL get better. It's hard when you've grown so attached to someone, but later in life you're going to meet a whole range of people and you can use this as a valuable learning experience.

It's okay to grieve and it's okay to allow yourself to feel it, even though it feels unbearable at times. But the world will not end because you are missing her and because you feel sad. Is there anything else you can occupy yourself with - assuming you're an aspie, our obsessions can be the best antidote in situations like this!

I know I probably haven't quite nailed it in my response but I just wanted to say I understand and have been through this. I think it's a part of being human, I'm afraid.