I am such a pessimistic thinker

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So my family are going abroad to America for a week and a half, and are flying out this week-end. I'm not going, which I don't mind at the moment, but I keep on getting these horrible irrational thoughts going round and round in my head, thoughts about something happening to them whilst out there. When I think about them coming back home, I can't seem to see that happening for some reason, and I am worrying in case this might be something telling me that something tragic IS going to happen while they're on holiday. But I am hoping that it's just knowing that they're so going far away is making me thinking all of these pessimistic thoughts, since they have never been abroad that far before.

Is this quite normal for an anxious person like me to think of all of these awful things when my family are going far away? Has anyone else here experienced this type of thing?

So am i , i am the most pessimistic thinker in my family. I never think that i am going anywhere with my life or that anything decent will happen. When i go out places or do things i always assume the worst , i can make situations i find myself in harder than they should be and less enjoyable. Also because i am so pessimistic i have stopped meeting people or taking risks , i cant be bothered to get more work , i am waiting for people to come to me rather than me having to go to them. Etc , etc , i sit around most the time bymyself mopping and getting envious of other peoples lives around me. Then i compare myself to people who are better than me , i am also the most self defeatest person and often belittle myself or mock myself.

Yes. My husband is a very pessimistic thinker. He always paints the worst case-scenario for everything. It is good at some point because you thought about the bad things that can happen and be somehow prepared for them. I am the total opposite: too optimistic. His negativity is sometimes draining for me, gets me depressed.

Probably you feel that way because you are getting anxious of being without them. That is understandable. I hope they have a good time and eveything will be alright.

I had the same thoughts when my parents went to Mexico for nine days, two days after Christmas. I was thinking that something bad was going to happen to them and that an older man who was living to the right of us was going to die. Nothing bad happened to my parents, when they were in Mexico. The older man next door did pass away, though.

Maybe you can keep yourself occupied with some things when they're gone like a project or some house cleaning.

I think it is normal to have a little anxiety when family members go away. I know when my family members and friends go on trips I wish for their safe return.. they go on planes after all and though plane travel is said to be as safe as car travel, it is a bit anxiety producing to think of somebody in a metal tube thousands of metres above the earth. But chances are things will be fine, so as Cockney Rebel says, just distract yourself with other things.

My cousin once told me that she loved to travel, and that if she died while travelling, she would die living the life she wanted to live. We all have to take risks in life. And nothing is safe, a person could die anywhere.

You sound like my Mum, she's the same. I think it's normal for someone with anxiety problems. I get like that occasionally over different things, so I know it's really not fun to be worrying so much.

yeah this happens to me too. hope everything worked out

I am a very pessimistic thinker. I always assume the worst. One thing I hate is when my parents go out to a doctor appointment by themselves. The reason being is that I believe something horrible will happen such as a deadly car accident. When my mom gets sick and this is often I assume that its something deadly. With her she does get deadly sicknesses such as infections though. She has had MRSA twice after surgeries. It makes me depressed.