How I view myself and how others perceive me

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I just to address how most people view me on here.

I know how most see as me this whining, complaining p**** that is so miserable, lonely, and angry that I try to make everyone feel the same way I do. You say that the reason my life is the way it is now is because I was too lazy or I didn't work hard enough. You say that I'm too p**** to talk women and should grow a backbone. (despite me mentioning that I've asked out numerous girls in the past) You also say it's my fault that people treat me s**t and if I want to have friends I should try to act more normal.


My question to you people is, what makes you think I'm capable of this stuff? I mean aside from me being able to type half-decently on a message board. (which a monkey should halfway be able to do)

I am hideously ugly, slow, stupid, uneducated, stinky, uninteresting, annoying and irritating to be around. I'm also a hermit, a bum, and a pathetic loser, can you blame someone for not being friends with me let alone dating?

I'm not smart, as I dropped out in the 9th after repeating twice IN special ed. I don't any have any knowledge in nor can I comprehend the stuff you people are interested in; Politics, History, Philosophy, Literature, Science, etc.

I can barely bathe myself, and I rarely take baths. I sometimes go 3-4 months without taking one. I also struggle with changing my clothes, I've had the same clothing on for almost two months (same underwear, tank top, and gym shots)

I barely get by taking care of myself while living at home, imagine me living by myself or working at a job. I would be overwhelmed.

I just can't be normal, and no amount of trying hard will change that.

I am low functioning, I just can't do the stuff you people can.

moved from Love & Dating to The Haven as it relates to overall self-esteem rather than love or dating.

If you're going to move my thread, then you should move this one:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php? ... 39#4137439

And it's not like I didn't address dating/women in my thread.

his thread is about self-esteem as it relates to dating. your thread is a diatribe against yourself on all kinds of levels. simply addressing lack of success in dating as one very small part of your list of things you hate about yourself is not the same thing.

So now what?

I guess sometimes people are just trying to encourage you but I also agree that it is really annoying and insulting when people insist that you are capable of doing things that you are incapable of doing. I hate when people do that to me.

It depends, there's a fine line between "can't do" and "won't do." People can learn behaviors, skills, etc. Some people it's harder and not worth bothering with. A metaphor I can see, weight lifting. Some people can naturally lift lots without trying. Others can't. But by training, the not naturally talented person can surpass the "natural."

Ice skating is something I like doing, I'm aiming to be like, good, at figure skating. Thing is, I'm not "naturally" talented at it. I've seen people in rental skates do moves like Ina Bauers and sit spins I can't do yet, and they're just kids in rentals. I'm not naturally cut out for it. I have pretty documentable visual spatial issues, I can't concentrate on a bunch of stuff happening at once, ie, I can't play a game like Battlefield 3 or COD4 almost at all, and if online, forget about it. In fact, the number of games I've beaten is about able to be counted on one hand. I didn't know why, but now that I know of my NVLD, it's probably attributable to that. So, being almost "too old" to start figure skating, and having all that against me, nevermind the fact that male figure skaters are called gay and all that, too, it's not easy. But, I choose to try at it anyway. My point is, when you want something bad enough, it turns to action, and you try really hard to get what you want.

So, if you hate yourself so much, make some changes. Change what you want different. Life is all about adapting, that's all. Adapt or die, it's unfortunately that simple. People have told you ways to adapt on this forum, obviously, yes, you can't follow all of them, but there are suggestions usable regardless. IE, if you really want some friends or something, find an anime club at a college and go there. What's preventing you from doing that? Nothing!

Everything you say can be "fixed" if you so intend it. Don't know about history or politics? You're on a computer, you can find out any information you want if you just care to. If you don't care to, then you don't care to. Guess what? Most other people don't give a rip about politics or anything either, that's why when you walk around amusement parks and ask people questions, they won't even know the name of the current vice president. So just because you're not a pretentious intellectual snob like most people on this board, doesn't make you dumb.