Should I go to therapy?

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My gender identity doesn't match my biological gender, so I suppose that means I'm trans. I've been that way my whole life, first showing signs I was when I was around 9 months old. I hate it, honestly. If I had a CHOICE, I'd be a normal person, but I don't. My girlfriend's angry at me. She was the first person I came out to because we were already sharing very personal secrets. She was fine at first, but then she began to speak her mind around 3 months after she knew. It's awful, I've never had arguements this bad with her before. I'm forced to stay my biological gender, I'm always being called the wrong pronouns, I'm called selfish, I'm being threatened not to be loved anymore, and I'm always forced to appear my biological gender. My parents found out and they do the same. I have NO idea what to do.

If you think it would help but I don't know that it would. I myself feel like my physical gender does not match my mental gender.....and physically I am female but I am still attracted to guys and would probably not go all the way with a female though I am open minded to some things. But yeah I just don't try to fit in with either gender anymore......sometimes it gets uncomfortable though because I'm female so people expect me to dress, act and think like one but I don't. The only thing I have in common with most females is I am attracted to the opposite physical gender more then the same physical gender.

I think it would be beneficial for you to go to therapy, but only if you had a therapist with a sound understanding and experience of GID.

You are in my thoughts and I hope your situation improves, soon. Even if you feel like no-one cares about you, at least I do.

Why is your girlfriend being like this? If she can't accept you for who you are, then I don't think it'll work.

First, wow. I have no idea how anyone can identify as the opposite gender. I'm not against it or anything I just don't 'get it'. I would really like to know more about how it came to be, in your experience.

But anyway, I think you should try and get another persons perspective on therapy... someone going through something similar to what you're going through. I'm sure there are forums out there specificly for you. You could ask them questions about who to see (there may be people that specialise in this sort of thing / maybe a sexologist?) and what to look for in a quality therapist. I feel this is probably a sensitive issue and ideally you will want somebody that is adequately prepared to respond to you.

You're not getting a lot of support from your family or your girlfriend.. To be honest I think it's a perfectly natural response on their part. As in, I'm not surprised. It reflects the true nature of the world today. We might accept strange things in order to be politcally correct, as long as they're nowhere near us.

It would be a really good idea for you to find someone to talk to about this. It must be an incredibly heavy burden for you to carry alone, especially when the people around you are making you feel bad.

I'm not sure where you are in the world, but there are generally services in most major cities (usually tied in with gay and lesbian services) that you may be able to contact. They should be able to refer you to the right person/organisation. In Australia this kind of thing exists and is free.

I agree with the other post though, if you go to a general therapist you need to find someone who understands about GID and is respectful of what you have to say. If the person is not right for you find someone else as you deserve to be heard and valued.

I'm very sorry about the way that your girlfriend and parents are behaving. There isn't really any excuse for that kind of attitude, but it is all too common. While trying to "find yourself" and deal with an issue of this scope you really need a solid support network, I know from experience. I hope that you can find one.