my heart is pounding out of my chest.

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if you read my other post, i mentioned that i start with one of two supprt workers tomorrow and i am not happy about it. nobody seems to be answering questions that i have about the situation. and i am freaking out.

i mentioned to a friend that i dont want to be a 30+ female with kids and a husband and still have a support worker come in every week and help me with day to day things. i dont want one for the rest of my life.

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Do you think you need a support worker or that you don't need one? Were you asked about this before it was arranged?

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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it feels like my life is getting planned out for me. there are reasons why i dont do things and those things are what the support worker is here to help me with.

its my parents that wanted me to have one, not me. i rather get eatting by a shark then live the life my parents want me too.

Are the things that you don't do, things that you need to do to take care of yourself or your surroundings? Things that will help move your life forward? If you don't do them for a reason, and they are important, your parents may be worried about how you will survive when they are gone. If you can do these things and don't, maybe you can show the support person that you can do them so that she is no longer needed.

What exactly does a support person do anyway? I never heard of one until I came here.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

I don't have any experience with having one, but it sounds like possibly they could help you in the areas you will accept help. Then once you know what you need to succeed in those areas your assistance from them would lessen, until you might not need them at all.

You are only 24 now, I would not worry about being 30 or what may happen then. Even if you try to plan it, it is full of unknown possibilities. Things will look a lot different to you then.

The support worker may even be able to help you access options that will give you more freedom and independence from your parents if you qualify for certain programs.

Let us know how it goes, and if you feel better after they answer some of your questions. Good luck!