Hard time dealing

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I might as well have made up everything....I think the meanest thing a person can do to someone is to say things in a super vague way and then deny saying it at all. I really dont think anyone wants to have arguments about what is said and not depending on the specifity, meaning, and ambiguity of what is being said. Perception means everything...he always would say things like I didnt say that to you, I didnt do that to you, etc etc. Who does that seriosely? It is cruel!! I honestly feel like I constantly made up everything....said i was crazy over and over until the point where I was checking myself into the ER.

I was abused and yet treated like the abuser....when did the world go mad??? Afterall who chirps the loudest gets heard....And the ones in pain suffer in silence and isolation.

You're not crazy.

I don't know you but what you wrote is very familiar to me.

Let me post just one of the many articles there are out there on this: http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2 ... any-faces/

I'm having a very very tough time too. Hopefully things will get better!

there's a name for it. it's called gaslighting - purposely making you think you're crazy.

His gaslighting turned into me doing it to him

He sent a text at 5 am (when he was getting ready for work i am sure) and said "Its 12 am you f*****g woke me up you ass" and naturally i pointed it out....as you can see this did not turn out well...except he never told me...he ran off and told someone else. When things ended with us I had a million haters that seemed to know more than I did and yet I knew nothing of them. Even one girl called me a schizophrenic. The whole event was so bad that I checked myself into the hospital because I was unsure of myself and my perception of events.

Now I see why every girl he dates dumps his friends too...you have to because everyone thinks he is wonderful despite the trail of broken women he has left behind...I dont see how people cannot notice. And the few that do notice logically back his crap up. One guy made some smartass comment "Yep, emotions dont make sense hehehe"