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i'm sorry you are feeling this way, but i can't help but wonder why you are not doing the following-

*putting much distance between yourself and this tormenting person, or-
*tormenting this person right back as good as he is giving to you.

i hope you are not trapped in the situation i was trapped in, namely the need to stay at a job to make enough money to keep a roof over my head and food in my pantry. i eventually couldn't take it anymore, and i ended up getting laid off, and since then i have lived in semivoluntary poverty which is still better than the daily torment i had to deal with at work.

1. Do not have any more contact with the abuser. Block them from emails, phones, and websites. Also don't go to see this person, don't let this person in if he/she comes over, and if you happen to attend a function or get together that this person is also at, just give a polite greeting and move on to talk to other people. Have nothing to do with this person any more.

2. You are not whatever bad things said about you.

3. You need to find ways to occupy yourself to keep these negative thoughts from over whelming you:

- Exercise. It generates mood boosting endorphins.
- Read funny stories, and watch funny shows. That also generates endorphins. That's why humor is good medicine.
- Volunteer. There are people out there worse off than we are. Helping them will boost your mood, too.
- Take courses, either in person or online. Some of the online courses are free.
- If you are unemployed, get a job. That will keep you busy and bring in some money.
- Take up a hobby. It's a great way to occupy yourself.
- Join a club. This is another good way to occupy yourself.
- Get involved in community events.--Another good way to occupy yourself.

Hope this helps.

Thank you.

Anything I do just feels really wrong, so I have to stay still and even that feels wrong.