I have no friends

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I have no friends.

I was never good at having/making friends. I've never been able to trust more than 1 person at a time. I'm almost 35 years old, married, and I have no friends.

My family is abusive or dysfunctional, so other than my husband I have no family either.

I think I need friends.

How do I start?

a good place to start is going to groups that focus on your interests. for example, i like music, so i joined a chorale and made a friend. church also is not a bad place to look for friends. if alcohol was a part of your family's dysfunction, you could meet people at al-anon.

herculean task to make friends
i am able to make friends with lot of difficulties
after making them its more difficult to hold onto the friendship
either they shift to another place or they join another group
or they are bored with me.................

I have a really great friend from the Celebrate Recovery group I started going to 6 years ago, he was the 1st person I 'outed' myself to about a month ago, and we have been communicating even more than the previous once or twice a week since that. His wife is close to my age and I spotted some of her in myself. Since I reached out the support has been heartfelt on that end. But most of everyone from the program treat me like I'm in the right place when I walk in, you might enjoy the one that's sure to be in your area, and while it's Christian based they welcome all. If you're looking for a weekly routine I would say check it out

I'm not sure how I've ever managed to make friends. I can't imagine it was ever anything of my own doing, I just kind of happened upon them. I guess the key is to just make yourself available. Go out to places where you're likely to run into people that you'd like to be friends with and see what happens. I also have problems with trusting people and I think the main thing that helps is to just not put yourself in a position where you're going to have to trust these people until you know them better.

I have a hard time making and keeping friends too. I think my main problem is just that I like being alone most of the time, so I don't put any effort into my friendships if I currently have more than one. I feel overwhelmed with having to do stuff with multiple people and I'll just quit calling people and stay at home as much as possible. If somebody calls and wants to do something I'll usually say okay, but I don't try to contact anybody in hopes that nobody will contact me and I'll be able to have some alone time. I also just have a problem trusting people because I've been screwed over too many times, so new people worry me and if anybody gives me a reason not to trust them I usually just quit talking to them.

My position is the same. Apart from my mom, I have no one.
I wish I knew how to start myself. But I think if you're willing to incorporate other people into your life, then making friends will come naturally. If you're like me, and you've had enough with other people, then friends are not gonna materialize.

Joining groups or clubs is probably the best way I would think. If you put yourself out there you will naturally attract people towards you.