Opportunity to move out, but afraid to take it....

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I have the chance to move in with a friend with a fairly low rent. I can likely pay it for a long time, and no first/last/security is required. However, I worry that my parents will try to screw me over somehow. I have a therapist appointment on Thursday that my mother is going with me to. Hopefully I can bring it up then. My biggest worry is that I'll never be able to see my dog again, but I may have to just deal with that.
Basically, they don't think I'm mature enough or ready to do many things. Granted, I've screwed up a lot due to drug use. But I believe my parents are a big trigger in regards to that.
Blah- this is just nerve-wracking.

It's probably best to talk this over with your therapist, but I can give my two cents.

When you live at home, it's scary to think about taking care of yourself when you haven't used your life skills yet. Maybe start by cooking a meal once and a while, doing laundry, cleaning up, and other chores so you gain confidence in your ability to take care of yourself. And in my experience, when you are on your own, you force yourself to find a way to cope. You learn how to take better care of yourself with time.

It helps to be living with a friend who can help you through the hard times. And if it's fairly low rent, then I see no reason not to take it.

About your dog, I dunno, maybe you can visit your parents once in a while?

I am in my early 50s, and lived with relatives most of my life, due to job/money/health issues, and hated it. We all drove one another crazy. I was finally able to live on my own several years ago, and things have been much better for me since then. My life is far from perfect, but it is far less stressful and more peaceful for me living on my own. I never want to live with others again.

Sweet Pea hugs

The thought of moving out and the big change that goes with it really sends shivers down my spine.

My mom was a major hindrance towards me moving out. Constant arguing, general lack of support and when I said I was leaving she threatened to charge me double the money if I had to move back in.

If you have issues with your parents that are affecting your life, you should move out asap.

Agreed.

I could keep my parents at bay when we were outside of the house, but at home, it is their house, their rules.

The constant bickering, toxic environment, and lack of independence was enough for me to want to get out bad. I've been mentally healthier ever since, and haven't looked back. In fact I've spent one or two weeks at home since, and it was so bad, I became depressed even while on antidepressants, which had been working for me at that dosage before I came back.

Hugs are not necessary.
I've decided to go ahead and move out regardless. It's what I need. Thanks all.