"Separation Anxiety"

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Does anyone else get a sort of separation anxiety when they're away from their SO/Spouse/Family? My husband is leaving on a motorcycle trip and I'm a wreck... it's only 4 days, so I know it sounds stupid. I don't know why I get like this. His grandmother passed away last week and it was an agonizing week of sitting in a nursing home going through the ups and downs of waiting for someone to die, and I keep thinking these spiteful "WTH, you just dragged me through all of this s**t with your grandmother and are now abandoning me?" thoughts, which of course make me feel horrible. When I get anxious/depressed it translates into anger and I don't know what to do about it. I have this overwhelming feeling I'll never see him again.... we've been through deployments, me travelling for work... but sometimes I get like this and I can't stop it.

I'm having the worst meltdown I've had in a while. This is two this week... I haven't had one in months prior to all the grandmother stuff.

I have a similar issue, but instead of becoming anxious I become zombie-ish. My husband and I both travel occasionally for work. When I'm the one traveling I'm fine. But when he's traveling it's hard for me to function at home. I stare at the TV or computer for hours, I do not leave the house, I don't eat, I stim, I become lost in my thoughts. When he returns I don't snap out of it right away - the coma lingers for a day or two before I am able to return to normal.

I'm not sure what it is exactly. I don't miss him that much - it's only for a few days. It's more like I miss the routine we have together, and without him I have no routine.

I know how it feels to have overwhelming anxiety. It's sometimes frustrating when you can't do anything to subside the uneasy feeling. When I get like this, I try to just think rationally. Realize that your anxious thoughts don't always correlate with reality.