Strange behaviours that I don't know how to react to?

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Hey guys,

If you've read any recent posts of mine you would know that I'm living with 2 awfully difficult people at the moment, one a friend 'S' and the other, 'M,' a sort of ex-friend who I don't know what to think of anymore (If you want to know just have a look at my past posts, but this isn't compulsory reading or anything). I usually get help from my friends and that about my problems but everyone is probably getting sick of me talking about it, and I try to tell S as least as possible otherwise M gets angry with me for 'taking sides.'

Anyway. My most recent problem is perplexing. Although I was diagnosed AS at an early age, I've had help from my family in understanding how to interact/react to people socially but there's something that M does that I don't know how to react to appropriately and it makes me feel uncomfortable and awkward. When I'm minding my own business like reading a book or something and it's just us in the room, he will make strange noises (e.g. like saying 'blerrgh!' or 'beoww bop!' or putting his finger in his mouth and popping it out loudly). I try to ignore it but it's very distracting when I'm trying to read or concentrate, and if I ignore him he keeps doing it louder or longer. What I want to know is, why is he doing it and how can I ignore it? I know I can avoid him but I shouldn't have to because it's my house also (and he takes up the living room). He doesn't have Tourettes, and I make weird noises too (e.g. I talk to my dog in dog language, and I talk to trees, and groan/click my tongue when I'm really stressed out) but all of these have context and I don't do them in front of other people except if they're appropriate and the people know me well.

He does a similar thing with us where he starts a pointless argument on an irrelevant statement that had nothing to do with the previous conversation or anything (such the treasurer of the state has passed a certain tax cut) and if we ignore him he just keeps going on and on, if we argue with him (agreeing or disagreeing!) he berates us, and if we tell him we don't want to argue he sulks. He also points at us, then the TV, telling us in his 'sign language' that he wants us to pay attention to what's on TV, but if we don't care (which we usually don't) he gets upset, but if you try to tell him in normal conversation about something you care about he just ignores you and says 'mmm.' Why does he act like this!

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This is the guy who takes food and doesn't replace it ? Everything I'm "hearing" reminds me of the annoying brother in most average families. Were any of you in the house only children? He seems to be acting as some type of surrogate, maybe it's him that never had siblings, I can only guess

Doing the popping sounds louder is an attempt to get any kind of reaction from you, he probably won't stop until he feels some kind of embarassment from doing it. Maybe video his antics and post them?

Yep, 2wheels, this is the guy who steals food. I have a younger brother who's pretty close to me, S has a younger brother also who he talks to regularly, and M has serious issues with his family who hardly speak to him at all (at least his parents don't). He has an older sister and brother both are very successful (we are constantly reminded of this), and a younger sister who isn't and he never talks about her (but boasts about his older siblings). S and I both assume when he tells us what to do it's cause that's how his dad treats him, but I don't know.

I would love to video this guy to show everyone what his like but things on the internet travel very fast.