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Because you have to be an Aspie to even try to understand. This has been my problem for three weeks at least and I really don't understand what's wrong this has NEVER happened before! I don't know how I can get out of this!
Again I'm updating but I might post this on its own. I know that anxiety is meant to make you more into an interest but I think I am the oposite I think my anxiety is caused by my special interests changing and that makes them change even more what can I do about this, should I try to force this to stay- its been two days and I already feel it starting to dissolve and I'm scared! I really want to keep this one I feel really, really bad for the character who I loved once before and I really want to love again, please,please help me!

Hi, please don't try and force yourself. That seldom works and often comes at too high a cost even if it does.

Go diagonal. There's a lot of wisdom in Asian thought. For example, the analogy in zen that a lot of thought and internal mental processes are similar to ocean waves, that might fall, but will later rise, and vice versa.

I agree with above.

Changing interests is a normal thing. Whats even better is that they come back after a while and you get to see them from a whole new different perspective.

Trying to hold on to something that you know is slipping away only frustrates you more and increases your anxiety. Accept it, let it go for a little while. It will come back!

and maybe view possibility of new interests as branching out?

I found Dantac's comments true as well.

But I think I know what you are talking about Pixie. Once in a while I have had a period of bouncing thru several interests rapidly. For some reason things were not holding my interest like they should and I was continually breaking away from the dullness to try something new. I remember trying old standbys, but nothing seemed to work. During those times I wasn't getting much relaxation and like you describe just more turbulance (= anxiety, etc).

The conclusion I came up with for these times was that it was time to try something very different and new. I think even Aspies, etc need real changes of scenery and pace. So maybe it was my mind telling me it was time for something trully new.

I often find that when our mind tries to force us to do something against what is naturally happening, it can often make it worse. Try to settle your mind enough in order to listen to what your body is telling you.
When I get overwhelmed by feelings that make me want to do something that doesn't fit with my plans, I often find I just have to stuff the plans and do what I need to do. Ride it out, so to speak. Then afterwards I will be in a better frame of mind to get on with what I need to do.

Is something else causing you anxiety at the same time?

When did these feelings begin?

I began to panic about losing my interest at the start of this year really and then I eventually managed to let it go and then I had I'd say about three or four interests. The one I have just now feels longer than four days long because I haven't stopped doing stuff but it isn't constant in my mind and there isn't that much research I can do so I think I am relying on my writing and drawing to keep it going properly. I just like this, it feels really good I think it feels better than the other few recent ones I've had but I can't be certain it will last longer than a week or so. I'm scared of loosing it.