I can hardly keep myself from blowing up in rage.

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Today, my dad and I went to Subway to get some sandwiches, and things went to Hell.

I was a little drowsy, and could hardly speak clearly while ordering my half of the sandwich.

I forgot a few ingredients to it, and I suppose it took longer than I should have to remember because I was tired.

Eventually, my dad started to treat me like a freaking ret*d. I paused for three seconds, THREE, not very long, and then he decided to say "Say thank you Matthew " as if I was a damn child, just as I was about to say thanks. He did this two or three times while I was there, and even said that I was acting ret*d, IN PUBLIC. He was also being really intrusive, rude, and cold about it.

Just as soon as we went outside, I raised my voice while upset, saying that what he did was rude and too far. The way he went about the ingredients, and being an ass about my "lack of formality" when I was about to say please and thank you, really pissed me off.

Tried to explain him this, but because I get speechless and have trouble communicating when I was upset, I was unable to, and then he threatened to knock me on the floor if I ever raised my voice at him again, when I had every right to.

He started saying I wasn't an equal, and I do not have the right to, when I was an adult. This made me even more furious, because as he said that, I immediately pictured myself being chained to a wall, being passed food by my dad, while he wears his arrogant king's robe.

And then, when we got in the truck, he started shouting at me some more, and then I started.

I again told him angrily what he did wrong,how "sorry" I was that I was tired, and how I usually take longer to speak then usual.

He then said "You're just using Asperger's as an excuse", when I didn't even mention Asperger's at ALL. But, besides that, I never use it as an excuse, there is just several facts about Asperger's that he never seems to accept, where some are some permanent truth, and he never listens and gives me crap about it, thinking I'm making excuses. But I didn't mention Asperger's a second until he mentioned it, asking him what it has to do with Aspergers.

He always does this. And he threatens me that he'll knock me down, even if I don't yell at him if I confront him for angering me. This has made me have trouble standing up for myself for a long time, because as it is now, I can't speak when I am mad, and I lose my train of thought when speaking. I hate that.

I hate him. There are so many more things that he does that upset me greatly. There are days when I get so mad at him, I sometimes have thoughts of attacking him, especially when he threatens to punch me to the ground. He's very hard to tolerate.

I'm usually a calm and happy person, but when he's around that always changes quickly for some reason.

He drives my mother insane too, who I think plans on divorcing him when I leave the house.

Anyway, while writing this, I managed to cool down. But what am I supposed to do about him? How are mom and I supposed to get him to act better? We think he has Aspergers too, but we're not sure, he always criticizes me for doing things he does and tells me to "grow up" when he's almost 60 and still does the same stuff. We don't like him around, and we wish he would act better, but I don't think that's going to happen.

What made you drowsy? Medication?

I couldn't sleep last night. Went to sleep around 4 AM.

I find most trips to Subway and the like go to Hell fast. I try to avoid anything fast food oriented - they're too bright, filled with plastic and so regimented. I will often get snippy in such an environment.
Not sure what to say about you and your Dad, maybe just to give each other some space. Sorry you had to experience such an unpleasant exchange. He shouldn't have spoken to you like a child.

The reason I asked about the drowsiness is that, hopefully, you can express to your father how you went to bed late so he could be more sympathetic to your next day fatigue.

It wouldn't matter. He'd just be an ass and go on and on about me making excuses, and mention Aspergers with it not being related, which... is what happened after I did tell him that.

I've calmed down now, but I am still angry that he likes to threaten to attack me if I ever get upset with him.

Sometimes I think about calling the police on him for it.

If he knocks you down, hit him back harder.

I gotta say, I'm with Who Am I....your dad totally deserved what you gave him in the Car. Wish I'd stood up to my stepmom like that more when I was still living at home.

...I like your idea of calling the cops on him, too.