Is it hard to trust NT's for friends or BF/GF?

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I had this in mind for a long time because whenever I befriend an NT, it always sends me in trouble.
Back when I was in my community college, I tried to befriend a fellow student, but she thought I had bad intentions for her and me and the dean talked that I have to not return to school for now until my social skills were ok and if I'm ready to go back.
End result- the school doesn't want me to befriend anyone from that college.
Even those I met on Facebook that studied there didn't want to talk to me!
Up to now, I still had a grudge on the student that sent me to this today because of the "wrong idea", and I never befriend NT's recently after hearing stories about Aspies having problems with NT's.
So it leads to this- Is it hard to befriend NT's or even trust them for friends or BFs/GFs?
I'de like to hear what you guys think about this problem.

Yes it is possible. I married one. Though I did not know I had Aspergers at the time & only knew (as did she) that I was 'different'.

Just chalk this situation at the Community College to experience and be sure to take things gradual and slow when making friends with an NT. Also be aware if the person is interested in be-friending you. If it is always you contacting or finding them, that can be a sign that they do not wish to make friends. In a real friendship both people will show interest and make an effort to talk or get together, etc.

The problem isn't so much with NTs, it's with people who have too many social contacts to place much importance on individual friends. For instance, an NT with AvPD would be less likely to have many friends, so they would place more value on the friends they do have. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who has a lot of friends, because there wouldn't be enough to ensure their loyalty and trustworthiness towards me. I've had experience in the past with trying to be friends with people with lots of friends, and they eventually just toss me aside, as if they never knew me. My friendship isn't enough of a valuable asset for them to care very much about trying to hang on to it. It's not worth it for me to try to invest in friendship with someone who doesn't invest in friendship with me.

NTs gave been friendlier to me and more interested than Aspies, so I prefer to seek them out. There's also so many more of them that I'd have a hard time finding anyone at all without some very basic ways to find the trustworthy ones, so...

I'm sorry about your school situation. That sounds like a simple communication problem that spun wildly out of control.

I naturally don't trust anyone other than family and respected authority figures and professionals. That's whom I trust with my well being, I also have my imaginative friends Gwydion and Rhoslyn, they help me deal with making sense of the world and manage my own issues.

I only trust my parents and a few of my family members (a couple of aunts, cousins, etc, don't trust 75% of them)

I've tried trusting NT's before and it has not worked out well

Besides my mother, almost all of the people I have trusted have eventually betrayed me in one way or another.

Trust no one but yourself.