Congregation leaders handling my situation

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I have gone to the same congregation for a total of two and a half years and I have really liked it. Lately though, I have just come away the last few times I have gone, I just have felt empty with this icky feeling.

So I decided to watch online yesterday since they broadcast their services live online with a small chat box. That has been able to work out so far when I am away. However, I recently discovered that a few of the people on those chat sessions are heavily opinionated know it alls. I eventually grew tired of some of the comments and called them a know it all. The others disagreed with me for saying that I said, "That person gets on my nerves."

The minister's wife tried to tell me to shut up in a nice way by saying "Please stop," but I thought she was telling me enough with the insults.

I ended up getting a letter from her via e-mail stating that she meant for me to stop talking on there all together when she said "Stop." She said that I disrespected her authority by making it sound like I was getting on the other persons nerves and that it is a place for people to praise God and ask questions. Then they said that I was attacking people online. Finally, they told me that they talked with her husband and the other staff and elected not to have me talk on the chat anymore. Yet they said I can watch online.

She told me to stop once and did not bother to tell me again and so I just kept on talking.

I just feel that these organizations seem to do people more harm than good.

It sounds like they've got sensitive skin, figuratively speaking.

Churches are political organizations - it's all about who gets to tell who what to do.

You're better off without them.

I am in the process of looking around for a different congregation since this one is just not a good fit anymore. I loved it in the beginning but they are a congregation looking to grow into a reach the world and have more than one congregation. They are already pretty well known around the world and so I am not surprised if they are bullying their members around like that.

They want to look as professional as they can without being pushed out of their comfort zone.

Sometimes it's just better to remain silent.

Also, I don't think it's appropriate to be having a chat box discussion during a church service.

I agree with you about the chatbox for sure and I realize that one as a matter of fact.

I do admit that I was wrong for calling the other person a know-it-all like that. However, the person who I called out had said ugly things about people with Asperger's Syndrome before. For instance, the day after the Sandy Hook shooting, this woman blurted out that the suspect was on the spectrum and all people with Asperger's syndrome have a lack of empathy and go off for no apparent reason. So I have been on edge with her before and have had no respect for her since. I got upset with her over her comments about people with Asperger's Syndrome too.

To get back to this situation, they had a little prayer meeting right after since they now do the prayers on a regular basis. Since I did not read into being told to shut up, I my requests. The people doing the live videos in the prayers just ignored my requests and prayed over just about everyone else.