A sexual predator, a sociopath and an aspie meet up... HELP!

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A little background: I'm a 16 year old who was officially diagnosed with Asperger's in 2006. I have quite a history with law enforcement agencies in my area as well as other groups that one aught to try to avoid. The first time I ever had a gun pointed at me I was 12 years old and ever since I've been learning how to tell if I'm being tailed, escape from handcuffs, manufacture crude firearms, set up ambushes and other potentially useful skills.

So, a little over a year ago, I was dealing with a sociopath that county officials had dubbed "dangerous". I didn't think much of is since some county offices think I'm dangerous, but I was wrong to assume I was safe. One brief physical altercation, a little time chained to a bench and a while in hiding later, this person has figured out what highschool I transfered to and has been lurking around the edges of the campus and occasionally talking to me. I can't reply for legal reasons so it's usually just pointless taunting. This is a huge step up from what went on between us last year which had me convinced I was in mortal danger, but obviously less than ideal.

Here's the new part: So, I was walking home from school the other day when I struck up a conversation with a man who seemed quite nice. We talked about a number of unrelated things. He mentioned that he just served an eight year prison sentence for something that happened at the skate park. It was some kind of sexual offence, but he wasn't very specific. I told him I've been locked up a few times and once served five years probation for a series of crimes I was later retried and found innocent of. He also told me he was a pastery chef and gave me a business card.

I continued walking home and talking to him. As we aproached the area I told him I lived in, he asked which house I lived in and I pointed it out to him. He asked if I had a cell phone or some other way he could contact me and I gave him my email address. Now, the part of this that concerns me is the nature of the emails he's been sending me. For example, one read

"Hey John could you please call me.... @ 971-217-5834 I want to walk home with you today from school over at the college if you don't mind
So are you going to wear something cool or cute ???? Either way it looks good on you what is the best time to come over ,, before you go to school. Is their a time were we can hang out.... let me just call me okay and send me your home number so I can call you.. what time do you get up.. Well john call me today I'll pick up okay... see you soon..."

His most recent message was "Come over at 10am so we can hang out till I have to go to an appointment at 2:30pm okay and please give me a number to reach you at.... thank you john @----)---"

I didn't know what to say so I agreed to meet him... What should I do?

cancel politely - "sorry. something important came up." you never want to be alone with this guy. always be "busy" when he asks you to do something. he'll eventually get the idea.

Thank you very much. I'll do that. Any other advice on either situation would be greatly appreciated.

Yikes! Is it possible you can show the messages to the police? Definitely don't meet him alone!

I made the mistake once of assuming someone was harmless; I saw him frequently when I was walking home from work and had talked with him briefly on a few occasions. Turned out, I saw him frequently because he was stalking me, and one night when I was late walking home he tried to attack me. Didn't see that one coming! Usually people like that are looking for people who are "gullible" and don't hesitate to give them personal information, like address, email etc. or who simply don't know how to avoid talking to them. They can be very charming and kind, and then turn into "Mr. Hyde" when you least expect it. From your first paragraph, it sounds like you have a good instinct for self-preservation. Use it now by avoiding this guy at all costs, and reporting his attentions to the proper authorities (even if you don't really care to deal with cops on the basis of your own history, you can call a sexual assault hotline in your area to report your suspicions anonymously).

Not sure how the sociopath figures in the picture, but I know my fair share of those... commonly known to me as relatives

Well my advice to LittlePigLocksmith is to be careful of both sides,

The chef you mention does not sound like a OK person, I would make a point of keeping well away from him.

On the otherhand learning to make zip guns is likely to get you into trouble with the cops, with your history if they find you learnings / practising / using anarchy skills like gun / bomb making then they are likely to charge you with a serious crime.

My advice is if these things are your "fun" then find a new hobby, you do not have to be the policeman's best friend but if you encounter them be polite and respectful but do be careful of what you tell them. See http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqMjMPlXzdA for details.

Sounds like a plot for a really bad movie.

You've got a weird sense of drama.

Are u really aspie? As an aspie I feel repulsed from drama and i found it really difficult to read what you'd written.

Most dangerous sexual-predators are also sociopaths(ASPD), so I assume the two things must be referring to the same guy.

In response to Venger, no they are not the same person. The one I've been dealing with for over a year is my age. The reason for legal complications is that last november I "assaulted" them one morning while I was eating breakfast. I'm currently on probation for assault in the fourth dregree and as such am not allowed to talk to my "victim" who aparently has no problem talking to me. The otrher person I met quite recently.

In response to Caleben, if you find what I post to be "repulsive", I suggest you not read it.

In response to Naturalist, I don't ever go to the police. The "justice" system exists to serve the politicians who almost all are loyal to the corperations that support them in their campaigns. There's also a lot of money to be had in the prison system and no shortage of shady crap going on there. I have met a few good cops who lamented the direction the American government is going in, but as a whole, I consider them to be an occupying paramilitary group and treat them much as I feel the citizens of occupied Europe should have dealt with the nazis during world war two.

Ive dealt with sociopaths before the trick is knowing their patterns and staying ahead of them by at least two steps. My abusive stepdad is a sociopath and has stalked me online for years this is the only place he doesnt know where I am and if he does stalk me here too ill doxx his ass and ruin his life big time by giving away his rl name number and address to 4chan!

If you've met one aspie, you've met one aspie.

So, I'm not allowed to edit or remove the post because it isn't recent enough, but I'm pretty sure the situation has been resolved. I appreciate the help that you people have offered. I just thought I should put this here to let everyone know there's nothing to worry about now. Also, I told him that I neglected to omit his phone number here.

Also, the situation with the sociopath is WAY less urgent than it was in September, but I suppose it hasn't really been resolved. She's just keeping her distance. However, this may change and I've heard that roughly one percent of the adult population in the United States has APD. So, I'd appreciate any thought on dealing with sociopaths. Now, it's important to note that one can have a mutually beneficial relationship with a sociopath. I personally have experienced this in the past. However, given their tendencies it'd be nice to have some idea of what to do when our interests conflict.

Dude, with all due respect, I know you're grown up and you've experienced a lot, but really? This is very basic stuff, he just comes out and tells you he's a sexual predator, right then and there you should've just said seeya later you're weird as hell, then you give him your address and personal info? This is basic kindergartener stuff, man.

I know how some people can seem super friendly and you don't want to hurt their feelings, but there's just a point where you have to give someone the finger and walk away, this is clearly one of those situations.

To be honest nothing possitive comes from hanging out with either! Believe me I know and I avoid those kinds of monsters at all costs one will try and rape you and the other will try and manipulate you and abuse you for his/her satisfacton! Stay the F**K away from those people!

This doesn't even sound real. If it is you're asking for trouble kid.