l&D advice posts.(not sure what to name this)

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whenever I see the post of women trying to figure out if a guy likes them or if hes going ask them out or what to do about a guy they like but isn't noticing them. it just makes me little sad and I think wish some girl liked me like that and mad posts like that.
so jealous of those guys, they are so lucky and they wasting it.

anyone else get this?

I understand the feeling that you are talking about. I am not feeling it right now but have felt it plenty of times before.

Life is rarely as cut & dry as people might express it as online. Staring at a computer makes it hard for most people to remember that they're bantering about actual human beings, and everyone realizes on their own terms and at their own pace that the interweb needn't determine the course of their biological life. On the contrary, WP has convinced me anecdotally on more than one occasion to "back burner" my social life whilst everyone sorts out their own troubles. AS or NT, everything's easier to follow acting on instinct as opposed to advice from one's laptop.

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No, context is too important for me. I'm not interested in wasting my time with just any woman... I'm only interested in investing my limited time with my ideal partner. When some random text speaks about such matters, with a profile that's listed gender is female, I simply know nothing about the person to feel any form of attraction or desire for the author of such text's desire to be focused on myself.

I can see couples being romantic in public and just think that it's sweet... I find romance too demanding to participate in unless my heart is all in, and quite frankly, I have no heart for the women in such spectacles because I have no knowledge of them, and if I had that knowledge, I know it's far more likely that I wouldn't be attracted to said women in that way as good compatibility to me is quite rare... So my feelings are actually more congratulatory toward couples for finding such sweetness in each other, instead of desiring what would be tasteless if the woman of a random couple and I were together.

If a specific woman I am attracted to wrote such posts, it would certainly stir me uncomfortable... but I don't know the feelings of jealousy, it'd just feel like severe disappointment to me. I don't want what's unnatural. I don't want love that isn't mine, so I can't fathom the wish to be the other guy... nor for her desire to be re-directed toward me instead. I am me, a sum of all of my qualities... if someone is not attracted to me, I can't rationally wish them to be and expect that that relationship would work out long if given a chance anyway.