Not Sure That I Want To Go To College Anymore...

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I am not sure that I want to go to college anymore. I mean,all I'm really good at that could turn into a career for me is writing,painting,and scrapbooking. I don't think I can handle college academically OR socially.

Things will be especially hard since I'm going to stop vocally talking AND I'm loosing my vision(although we found out that there IS a surgery that I can take...but it's pretty damn expensive).

-SpaceCase

Why are you going to stop talking?

Anyway, this is a tough thing - I know, because I'm kind of going through it right now too. I had a meltdown in a class and now want to withdraw from the class, if not the whole program. I can't give you advice, just let you know you're not alone.

I think ceasing talking, if by choice, is a bad idea when you have the capacity to talk. It will only send a person backwards as far as I am concerned and make it nigh on impossible should you ever desire to start talking again...you don't improve social skills by stopping talking...why do you wish to stop talking? I would have thought there is enough to contend with without peoples questions and misunderstandings regarding that...

College I cannot comment on as I hated university and college... I prefer my own course of study and following my own path and interests...but it can be an experience, and any qualification is better than none, I would have thought. You could do Art or something and combine your interest with academia.

Just be glad you have a college there... We don't have one.

I hope you won't do things suddenly. You've had such a terrible shock.

I know a guy whose friend died, and he was so blown away that he just stopped going to classes. Everything was pointless. If only he had gotten the official withdrawal thingy from the courses, but he didn't so he was marked as failed all of them, which followed him for ten years.

Can you tie off the ends if you're going to stop?

About this surgery - is there a time constraint? Do they have a solid diagnosis?

I think of you often and keep you in my prayers.

If what you say is true,i recommend NOT going to college and saving up what little money you have for surgery,because you can get rich WITHOUT college (Bill gates done it and he MIGHT have AS) and you want to find true happiness right? well being blind and voiceless will keep that from happening.

I just feel like no one cares or understands.


-SpaceCase

I care.

I care too. I know I can't imagine what you're going through. If you want to talk about it, I'm a good listener - 2 ears, no waiting (dumb joke). Are you facing this alone?

I care.

Hi,

Sorry to hear that you are having difficulty at college. I had problems with University too. I was concerned that I couldn't cope with the work (I had just taken 2 years out from studying as I had experienced a breakdown and was also suffering with ME - to the extent that I ached all over all the time and my short-term memory would not function properly - It has still not fully recovered).

I could only go to my local uni - living away from home was not something I could possibly have coped with.

I found university incredibly difficult. The studying was hard, although I found that as long as I accepted that I would need to work harder than other people to achieve the same results, I did okay and got reasonably good grades.

Socially, I couldn't cope. I would simply turn up for lectures or to use the library and then go straight home. I also needed a lot of help from the support staff at the university and had to go on anti-depressants.

Eventually, however, I did manage to make a few friends - oddly enough they were also people who didn't fit in for various reasons e.g. because of disabilities or because they were mature students and about 14 years older than everyone else.

I did well at university and even stayed an extra year to do an MA. I'm glad I did it, and although it was very hard, I feel a real sense of achievement and I have a decent job because of it, despite my disabilities and other health issues.

I can empathise with the eyesight issue to some extent too. I only see out of one eye (so I have poor depth perception and often walk into stuff accidently) and the one eye I use is gradually getting more and more strained which is having a detrimental affect on my vision.

But I'm still glad I went to Uni.

Obviously, you have to decide for yourself, but I just wanted to share my experience because I too never thought it would be possible for me, and although it was a huge struggle, I did succeed and I feel so pleased that I persevered.

As for your transferable skills being writing and painting - those are pretty good skills to have!

go for it

i would say... if you're goin into the art program or something... you'll probably meet some cool and accepting people.

should at least try... or else you'd me mad you never did.



what is goin on with your vision? maybe i skimmed over it... but what's all the suregery about?

If the surgery will give you a much better chance of retaining some of your eyesight then go and do it. It's never really a good idea to penny-pinch over your health because that is far more important to your sense of wellbeing than a few more bucks in your pocket. I've never had and never will have perfect vision. Usually it's just a bloody nuisance but it can occasionally be dangerous for me (for example, when crossing busy roads). If you have the opportunity now to preserving your sight then by all means make the most of it... while you can.

And why on Earth would you want to give up speaking? Do you want to be seen as some weird girl who can't look after herself properly? Do you want to be mistreated and discriminated against by people who see you as a 'ret*d'? Look, giving up speech will do you no good at all. It will almost certainly harm you - especially in the long term. Trust me on this. Think about all the people out there with problems who would love to be able to speak up. Do not squander your gift. I'm not advising you, I'm telling you not to do this. I'm not you so I can't get in your head and see what you're thinking but if you give up talking how on Earth are you going to be able to lead a proper life? Sometimes, I wish I could get on a plane, come over to where you live, sit you down and talk to you. I can't do that from here, I'm afraid. You have to make your own decisions in life. I can't make them for you, you know...

Please keep me posted, though.

OK?

Thanks,Tequila...

I don't want to talk (I was going to use writing and sign language) because it's hard,tiring,stressful,and scary. And people HERE don't understand or even CARE.

-SpaceCase

Listen, there must be other, less drastic 'solutions'. Have you looked into speech therapy or something to improve your skills or get them going again? It'll be worth the effort, trust me. I've been able to speak for most of my life and, like many Asperger's people, it isn't always easy. Quite often people don't have a clue what I'm on about and I have to explain it. But don't give up.



Oh now, that's not fair. I don't (and can't) understand but I do care.

Last edited by Tequila on 25 Mar 2007, 5:09 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think she might mean HERE as in where she lives, but I could be wrong.