OK, I was born in California. I came to South Korea for work. I kind of failed my jobs in CA because of poor relating to others. Here I'm safe behind a computer all day.
I have found South Korea to be difficult for people who are different in any way (non-Koreans) and for those are not NTs. Koreans tend to be very clanish (they stick to themselves) and are hard to get to know or develop relationships with. I'm not trying to bash Koreans at all since they are wonderful people in many ways. This has been my observation and also what I have heard from many other NT foreigners. So I stay in my job, mind my own business and try not to offend anyone who has expectations of me that I can't reach. 
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I know you think I understand what I think you said, but I am not sure that what you heard is not what I meant.