Humiliating Memories

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So, we all know that being an aspie can call for some rather embarrassing moments, but do you ever find yourself unable to let go, and find yourself flashing back to events that happened months, years, decades ago? As if everyone has forgotten about that one tiny slip-up but you? So much to the point where you wish the intrusive memories would go away or you find yourself wishing that you could go back and stop yourself?

People have told me to move on, but the problem is I can't. I've tried. Numerous times.

I would continue to try to "move on." I can't think of any other advice.

Except talk about this with either your friends or your therapist.

As an aspie, we are hypersensitive to painful thoughts and embarrassing moments. Everyone make mistake in social situations and because of our condition, we tend to make more. So forgiving ourselves as Jesus die for us to save us from our sins, mistakes and weaknesses. Recursive punishing ourselves for what is done in the past, just make it worst. Best way is when the negative thoughts come up, just distract ourselves to do exercise or watch TV. Replace negative thoughts with positive activities that is best way. Also, logical analysis of the past situation helps, were u mistaken in something, others may not be as harsh to you as yourself. They probably forgot this incident by now, only u remember

Oh, yes. But I really did have tons of embarrassing moments. There was a time when I had them every day. I look back on some that happened a decade ago, and am embarrassed all over again. I even wrote a book about how I'm too sensitive for my own good, and the book details my embarrassing moments. I plan to get it published by an actual regular, legit publisher.

I think the most relevant thing I can say about this is that the human mind can be considered a filter for information and experiences. As much as various sensations might linger, they're always being overwritten by your immediate surroundings. Our brains aren't storage mediums as is often presumed in legal or professional contexts, memory is an after-effect of the way we perceive the present. As nerve racking as the intensity of memories like ours can be, the benefits of the retained knowledge are something I find worth living to pass along.

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So, so many growing up. I can never relate to people revering their youth, because it was so chaotic and painful for me. Thankfully, it lead to a better place years later and I deeply appreciate my life now.

There were definitely some that plague me to this day, then there are moments where it wasn't so bad at the time but in hindsight.... ugh.