What's this whole "family" deal?

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Is it common for aspies to feel little or no emotional connection with their families? I ask because it often seems like there are no members of my immediate family with whom I can feel any sort of connection - they're all just people who I am required to live with by law for some reason. Still, I feel like I'll feel guilty if one day I just end up abandoning them completely when I'm on my own, but this is mainly because they've given up things for me (even when I've asked them not to).

I feel almost no attachment to my family, I accepted it awhile ago

I feel more attached to my mother than to anybody else in my family. I love my siblings, and I love my dad, but it's my mother to whom I've always felt closest, always.

My brother and I have nothing in common and I barely talk to him a lot of the time, and my sisters and I never really mix, either. Mostly I stay away because they're doing their own thing and I'd feel weird trying to join in, no matter the feelings of my siblings and their friends towards me.

I'm not an aspie but I don't feel real close to my brothers at all or to any of my relatives. I don't miss them or anything or feel their problems. I call my parents everyday pretty much and like to come out and visit them just because. When I have problems I call my mom and dad.
When I lived in Montana, I didn't have interest in visiting my grandparents or my uncle. I only saw them when we had dinner at their place, or when my parents invited them down to our house for a visit.
I don't even talk to any of my relatives over the phone. I don't know their numbers anyway.

I can't stand them, the ones in my house is my mum and sis and to me they are one person.
they are christians who push god on me and play stupud music
I nevre go out to the other family pieces home unless its chrismass eve, i liek the polish soup
sometimes i hate them the most and they think im jsut beign childish but i truly do hate them
i want to move out

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ill corert this tomorrow ifd i rember-alcohol! xD


I FORgot to adddd

Ilove my "fake"? family
My rl friends are like my family in some ways but without named mother sister and stuff
My online friends i have my bro who i love hes the best at drawing and somehow makes many friends I very jeallous.
My little sis Carmen i didnt talk for her a while but shes great.
I didnt even meet these 2 but i lovve them

I have five siblings, two sisters which I haven't seen in ten years ever since my to my father disowned me for not going to his Jehovah's Witness church; the others, I only see or talk to during holiday visits to my grandmother's.

My father never did a thing for me and the one time I got to live with his "precious" family....at 20 years old, he kicked me out after five months because I went to a mainstream church. He blamed his car accident and drug relapse on me saying "Jehovah" wasn't blessing his household due to me going to a Baptist church and not his JW kingdom hall. So to get god's favor, he had to get rid of me.

My mother and I never bonded and it showed in her attitude toward me while growing up. You'd think I was her stepchild or something. She is trying to make amends after my hospitalization a couple of years ago. But I still only talk to her on the phone every month or so(she lives 500 miles away) and only see her once a year.

The only people I feel a true bond to are my grandparents, particularly my grandmother. If it wasn't for them, I'd probably would've given up on life by now.

They beat living out on the street.

Me too. I feel little or no attachment to my family. While I do care for them more than others, I am not sure that I can quantify this feeling as "love".

I love half my family, and hate the other half, and the whole thing is dysfunctional.

Other than my kids and husband, I feel no real attachment to family except to my one Aspie brother (I have two other NT brothers). I would freak out if anything happened to him.

My family members do not get on well with one another; most are utterly irrational. There has never been any true communication or connection between anyone, but this fact has never really bothered me.

As soon as I'm away from my family, I lose all contact. My teens were real tough (on all of us), and it's like I'm back in that mode of thought when I see them again. I spent about 15 yrs with almost no contact. Then, when my wife kicked me out, I went back to my folks. I'm pretty convinced that my father is damned close to Asperger's, while my mom is something of the opposite (though insane - but I shouldn't talk, the last time I stayed with her, I tried to disassemble her with a meat cleaver). I love them, because I say that I do, but I sure don't like to be around them.