feeling that your adopted cousin's son is your nephew?

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My cousin was adopted to my family almost 10 years ago. 2 1/2 years ago, my adopted cousin's girlfriend gave birth to a healthy Neurotypical son. Since my Adopted Cousin is now my brother, which I mostly use cousin instead of his brother. Because I believed that calling him as a brother is wrong, and his son, is my nephew, because my cousin was adopted into my family, but I believed that his son is still my cousin, rather than nephew, because when I been told that I'm actually his uncle, but I denied his son as my nephew, but accepted him as a cousin. I also denied my adopted cousin my brother, but his cousin instead, because I believed that system is wrong, Because I believed that calling an adopted cousin a brother (which he's a boy by the way), and his son as my nephew wrong, because it's kind of similar to incest, but it's not, because I know what incest is, but this one is a intrafamily thing. I decided to keep calling my adopted cousin and his son, cousins. Because I think I'm not his uncle. Anyway, my sister is just recently got pregnant with a baby, which I accepted her son/daughter as my niece/nephew. Because she's my sister and my biological sister. So I congratulate myself to be an uncle.

As I called my Adopted Cousin's son as cousin, My mother gets mad at me that he's my nephew, not a cousin, but I denied it.

How could I tell my mother that I am not comfortable of being called an uncle by my adopted cousin's son, but accept him as a cousin instead. Because I believed that it's wrong. And I pulled sanctions against my parents because of that.

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In my culture, my cousin's child is called niece or nephew by me, and they call me aunt, and cousin is called brother/sister. It doesn't matter how the number of cousin like first, second, third, etc, all are called at sibling level. My father calls his cousin brother, even though only their grandfathers were brothers.