A man was found hanging from a tree. He was quite dead, but even the bloat, the drying in the sun, and the depredations of the botflies had not erased the relieved smile on his face.
Why did he kill himself?
Because even after working 40 hours a week and more, his partner (wife, sister, etc) expects him to do "his share" of taking care of the kitchen and cooking, even when he is dead tired, and lets it ROT if he doesn't bust his ass trying to keep up with the mess that his partner and her daughter make all day while he is at work.
Because the expenses add up to more than his salary and she refuses to work while badgering him to "save up for a car."
Because she refuses to communicate with him about this, because she does not wish to hear any opinion contrary to her own, on any subject.
If his partner is his wife or other kind of "sex partner": Because she has been denying him sex for twenty years because he saw a 44 EEE bouncing around in a flimsy sweater and said something like "Da-yum! She needs to secure that load!" She still refers to her, a person who hubby has never met and doesn't want to meet, as "that damn trollop at the Kiwanis parade."
Because she drains him for more than $300 a month in expenses that are rightfully hers to pay, and berates him for spending $300 on a computer.
Because she says that he "could have bought a car a long time ago" even though all of her lack of financial discipline and employment has cost him thousands of dollars in the past year.
Because he knows that if he protests this treatment in any way he will suffer like no man has suffered before, at the hands of someone who takes all of his money and won't let him have sex, even with himself. (Yes, a sister just might do that.)
Because she takes many road trips on his dollar and promises to pay them back and doesn't.
Because those same road trips also cost him a lot of missed hours at work, because he doesn't have his own car, so he is paying even more money out of a smaller income.
Because her garbage is in his face and he'd better not dare to move his face or say anything.
Because even if he has a heart condition she minimizes his needs and places hers ahead of his, like her need for Choco-Mint ice cream in the middle of the night during a blizzard.
Because, for the love of God, if he is the only responsible adult in the house, at the request of herself no less, he has the absolute right and obligation to make the big decisions. What in Hell is up with that?
Because her idea of how the household should be run is more important to her than his life is.
Because she doesn't give him any credit for breaking his back trying to keep up with her demands. It's just her "due" for being female. She doesn't have to give anything back.
Because, wife, partner, sister, or whoever, she keeps a stranglehold on his emotions and turns most of what he does into negative feelings.
Because she has read and watched all the material about dysfunctional relationships and from all of that education she has learned how to deny all of the charges and what buttons to push while she denies them.
Because all of the females in his life treat him like dirt and expect him to take it.
Because he feels sick and weak because he cannot make his feelings known to the people who matter to him. Maybe it's a "weak Y" thing.
Because why do these people matter to him when they treat him like dirt?
Because no matter how much he tries to use the sweet light of reason, it falls on deaf ears, while the female expects him to obey every slightest whim.
Because he has learned to treasure every moment that he has spent the last so many years not having sex, with her or anyone else.
Because when it comes to any audible form of communication, she is definitely exit-only.
Why didn't he leave a suicide note? Because after years of failing to communicate with his partner, because she refused and punished him for the attempt, why in Hell should he start doing it on his last day? He's made his statement. Now she's ready to listen? Too late, isn't it, b***h?
12 Mar 2007, 9:52 pm
