My bipolar relationship with my parents

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Sorry if I've posted this before, but this is a much more clearer situation of my living sitch with my parents that what I have posted in the past about this:

I have something to say about my parents, and why I (kind of) hate them. Before you say that I shouldn't hate them, I need to address this: They are a largely prissy, conservative, typical Asian kind of parents, and I am more Westernized, and that has caused many clashes with me and them. Which is why I cannot stand them at times. I have thought about filing a restraining order if worse comes to worse upon my move to Los Angeles; I am not sure whether it will happen (financial obstacles stand in the way of that), but if it does, and they do push me to my breaking point, I will not be afraid to change my name legally and file the restraining order against them, so I can start fresh with my life without their obstructionist ways.

You don't have to really go to that extreme. You never know if you might miss them or if they'll need you one day, or if you'll need them.

When I moved I lost a lot of contact with my parents, but it's brought us closer. I've only spoke to my dad like 5 times in the last year, and seen him twice. And that's all we need. We're not close and we never will be, and we'll never see eye to eye, and I hate a lot of the way I was raised, but I'm here today. Holding a grudge will only hurt me and him, and there's no reason for it.

You can move away and take a break from them without disowning them. Think hard before you make that decision.

I think 886 gave excellent advice. In my case, my parents and I became estranged and it was the best thing for me.

If I were you I'd try to get a job and get out of there ASAP. I know you want to find a job that you like, but right now the important thing is to find a job at all. Anything that you can do that will get you a paycheck. It may be the most boring or most annoying thing you can think of, but it's a paycheck and if you can spend 8 hours a day at it then it will give you the money to get your independence.

Don't think I'm bitching at you, because I'm not. We have talked a lot and I know you have lots of plans and hopes and goals for your life, but you have to push yourself to start taking the first steps so you can make them happen. Until you do that you are going to be stuck in the same situation. I know we have talked about looking for a job and you want to find something that you feel you will fit in with, but it's easier to find a job when you already have one. I really want to encourage you to just try and find anything right now that will bring you a paycheck so you can get out.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

^ I've been working on that, believe me. I've also consulted with people outside this site about my move to SoCal as well (which will be a permanent one). Sorry I've had to say that again.

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