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This house was so nice and quiet, but while I was in London, the landlord moved in 3 Indian people. This was all very well, but tonight they have decided to have like about 9 Indian males, all smoking downstairs in the living room... I have a lung disease for a start...the smoke is offensive to me, and it is coming into my room, and not only that, every few minutes, someone is going in and out of the bedroom and letting the door slam shut, which is very loud. I have shouted, stamped my foot, called them all manner of names from up here, and I am getting very upset and violently inclined as the noise is unbearable to me...I want to punch their lights out. It is so damn rude and inconsiderate and they know it bothers me. I cannot even go to the kitchen for a snack as to do that, I have to open the door to the living room and walk past them all. It seems I shall have to move out as I cannot deal with this on a regular basis. The door slamming is a nightly thing. I could cry, I cannot find a haven anywhere right now.

That sucks. I hate people who smoke, as it's disgusting. And people slamming doors, gah.

Have you tried legal action? Sounds perfect for a person pissed off at foreigners!

F'ing hate it, being stuck in a house full of men! I wish they would go back to their homes, the 2 who live here, i can deal with, but a whole lot at once. I swear if they bang again, ill go down and scream the house down.

Do they know the door is that loud? There might be hope - I had a neighbour who was very noisy until I quoted what she had said to her son the day before - then she got very quiet indeed.

Come to think of it, I have to tell visitors not to slam my own front door. They think it's normal.

Anyway, maybe - I don't know if there's a way, I hope there is, that if they're not aware of it, they might change what they're doing re the door.

They cannot possibly not have realised how loud it is... I wouldn't mind the occasional letting it slam shut, but it got so bad it was almost constant... agony for me..I still cannot figure out why such noise causes me an instant anger and distress response... I shall have to speak to the landlord and complain, but I am not sure he thinks much of me since I am on housing benefits here and am a female...their culture is different, I believe.

Oh Graelwyn, I totally sympathize. I remember the last time I was living in a shared house, I ended up moving out because the social situation was just too difficult for me to handle and I was also not feeling like I had a haven.

Can you go in a room, put wet towels in the door cracks to keep the smoke out, wear earplugs, and create a soothing environment ANY where in your house? At least for now. Then on Monday perhaps you can figure out how to handle it, when your system isn't overloaded.

I did wedge a curtain under my door...a spare one. There is a huge gap at the bottom of my door. I had no idea where the smell of smoke was coming from until I needed to go to the kitchen, and you know, about 7 men smoking in a small room... it was hell, and I have issues with males anyway, so I didn't like having to walk past them. It no longer feels like any sort of home to me. I feel invaded. It sounds extreme but there had been just myself and one other quite male here until these people arrived. I could go down into the kitchen at any time, and guarantee I would be the only one there. I get angry when I come across people in my environment...is that selfish? I suppose it is... I need my own place really, I think.

I wear earplugs when I sleep but when I am doing things, I often have music on or am playing a game...and no, their banging totally overrides my music or game, lol...in fact it creates this chaos in my brain because of the conflicting sounds, if that makes sense.

*sigh* This is one of those times when I dearly wish I was just normal like everyone else.

If they don't know how loud it is, would there be any possibility of trying to explain it to one of them? Even if they knew about the sound, they couldn't know about the distress. The question is what they would do with that if they knew.

Sensory overload can trigger the adrenals, that's why you're angry. Not a good moment to try to explain things.

Could you put something around the door jamb to lessen the slam?

otoh, maybe you should join their party and have a meltdown. They'd leave. I'm not sure if I'm kidding.

I wish you peace.

I'm pretty sure she's tried explaining the situation to them Clara. Did they arrive when you came back or while you were away? If it's while you were away and they need your consent to move in it could be considered, erm... unruly is the word that first comes to mind. They don't deserve to live there if they prevent you from feeling secure in your own home.

Have you tried talking to them? Im sure that it you let them know that the door slams are really loud they'll try to help out. I mean, it one thing that after you tell them, they keep on doing it, but at least then it would warrant telling the landlords.

Their English is very poor...the female who lives here couldn't even understand when I asked her to stop slamming her door. I had to gesticulate, and she still lets her door slam. Also, I am very bad at dealing with males as I have a natural fear of most men due to things in my past... I am much better than I was but I still find it very hard...and I am afraid to approach them moreso now because I have no doubt they have heard me shouting out in my room when they make noise. It is a difficult situation for me...

KBABZ...they moved in while I was at my mothers for the weekend. I got back and they were already in. I cannot do much as it is a 6 bedroom house and has had only 2 of us living in it since last July, but I had hoped he would get in quiet people, or at least some who speak English. I do not like socialising much, but an occasional brief interlude would be nice. I feel like an alien in a house of strangers.

Just a small amount of smoke can lead to eventual lung cancer. Second hand smoke is worse than the smoker's kind, because it is not as filtered. I moved out of my dorm room and into a private dorm apartment last semester due to marijuana and cigar smoke. I was also concerned that the marijuana smoke would give me an increased likelihood of schizophrenia. Sorry, no advice other than to cajole these Indians to stamp out the smoke or to contact your landlord.

Bastards. They probably moved in because it was cheap and had lots of room.

I still think taking legal action or going to the board or whatever runs housing rental would be a good idea. If they can't speak English and are more annoying than Fluorescent lights, why should they be allowed to live there with you? They are gibing you health risks and are almost breaching human rights (I'm pretty sure one of the rights is the right to feel safe and secure, plus comfortable).

Yes, the smoke does, admittedly worry me a great deal as I have CPD...chronic obstructive pulmonary disease...a mild form as I quit smoking soon after I realised my lungs were getting bad, but I really do not want it to get worse, and was told it would if I was around a lot of smoke or smoke...and of course, that thought sends me into a panic attack as one of my real fears is being unable to breathe. But the landlord might just tell me they have a right to smoke in the house they are living in...

Definitely sounds like you should lodge a formal complaint to whoever runs that sort of thing...

AFTER you make a decent attempt to try and stop it yourself. (makes for a good case, you see, not to mention it has a possibility of working)