The grieving process

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It's been nearly two months since my friend tragically passed away while off-trail hiking. While I'm doing pretty well, there are days when the loss just seems overpowering. Today is one of those days. I'll come across something that reminds of her, and the wound opens all over again. The cold, hard reality that I'll never we'll never have another conversation, never share a laugh, or enjoy the beauty of the outdoors together again.

Life goes on, though. All things considered, it's been a crappy summer.

I'm sorry for your loss Vegetable Man. I recall reading her blog at the time it happened and thinking what a unique person she must have been to know and what an excellent writer she was. I really found her stuff interesting. She is someone you can feel privileged to have met and known.

Treasure the memories. I lost a loved aunt two weeks ago: she was 84, a vegetarian and animal lover with a loving personality. She so wanted to get to read some of my stuff but we never got around to it.

@VM & enviro I'm sorry for your losses, thoughts are with you.

I feel for you folks, too.

I've only had a mild acquaintanceship with loss--yet it's still painful.

She was a very unique person, envirozentinel. I feel very privileged that I got to know her. I'm very sorry to hear of the passing of your aunt. There's something so chillingly final when people we love pass away. We focus on the things that were left unsaid and not done. But there is solace in knowing that they loved us and knew how much we loved them.

Thank you Catlover and KratieKortie for our kind words. I mans very much to me.

Grief is so very difficult, I feel for you, its one step forward, two steps back.

Its a terrible type of pain, suddenly something will remind you of the person, and there is a split moment delay, where you might still think of them as alive, the transition thought bit is hell.
Resource yourself through interests as best you can. It might take a long time before you can remember her without feeling that pain, but, it does ease gradually.

Yeah, there are many times she feels very much alive to me -- then it has to sink in all over again. I'm keeping myself busy, for sure. (Well, I don't have a choice, really!) I'll be attending a memorial hike and picnic in September. It will be nice to share memories of her with others.

Coming up on the anniversary of the day we first met last August. Ordinarily, getting to know someone is exhausting for me. In this case, I had one of those feelings that I've known this person for ages. That's what makes this loss so particularly difficult -- that, and I had such a short time with her. Connections like that are precious, and don't come along everyday.