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hi

So I am having a lot of social problems lately but this one blew me away. I texted a friend of mine that lives in the same apartment complex as me and she replied back and said "Stop calling and texting me please" followed by a "delete my #". I fine with this and respect it, I am no stalker but I can't figure out why this is the case. I gave her food just yesterday and she asked how I was doing in a caring way. What could have happened in 20 hours time?

This isn't gonna help my depression, it just add more confusion. I texted her back and said "wow ok I am sorry. I didn't know you felt that way. I am sorry for whatever I did. Will do what you said. Have a goodnight at least" in hopes that she would provide a hint as to why the friendship ended but she has not replied.

This makes me sad and confused...

Hey dcj123.

Yeah, I'd be confused if I were in your situation. From the time that you got her number to now, did you text her a lot (maybe she got annoyed) or talk about some current, possibly sensitive issues (maybe she disagrees with your views)? It's a bit difficult to determine what's going on in her mind, so I think you responded well to the text. Easier said than done, but try not to let her words and actions affect you too much.

You don't need such people in your life.

Are you male and was there any romantic interest from either end?

It isn't necessarily your fault. Some women just decide they don't want attention from a man for whatever reason and go cold. It's just best to decide who's a close friend and who's an acquaintance before you go all in, I suppose. Some people don't want to be bothered constantly. People are tough to figure out, just keep your head up..

Exactly. I would just let that person go.

I've been depressed and I think that annoyed her, I got drunk and went suicidal on her mom and her mom called the cops but her mom still talks to me and she wasn't around when this happened. I texted her two days in a row but other than that I don't think I texted too much, I have texted her less than I have other people.



I don't really know how to answer this and keep it site friendly but we had a casual physical relationship, no love, no emotional attachment. We stopped a while back and she never gave me a clear answer on that either, maybe I miss read something there, maybe she wanted nothing to do with me then. I thought you could end a physical relationship and still be a persons acquaintance. Friend is probably too heavy a title but I did consider her an acquaintance.

Edit - I am male,

Sounds like she has problems, too. She'll probably come around once she calms down....but I would get OFF that rollercoaster.

Seek out other friends.

If she has a decent relationship with her mom, I'm sure her mom told her about the drunken suicidal cop-calling event, and that probably scared her (understandably so--if some guy I was seeing got drunk and threatened to kill himself in front of my mom so that she had to call the cops, I would drop him like a hot potato as well.) You sound kind of unstable, and women aren't really looking for that in their hookups, usually. That would be what most women would consider a "red flag" and a sign to get away from you.

Not really. Generally when this happens, in most situations, 2 people are just using each other or filling some sort of hole in their life. When they no longer need it or find something better, they discard it. Rarely do people even have basic respect for each other when they do this, so meh.. people come and go.