At the bottom of his list.

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I had been associating off and on with another young adult who also has Asperger's. He used to appear to be a lot more genuine and friendly when we first connected. Then he started getting involved with several meet up and other social groups along with getting heavily involved with self advocacy and public speaking on living with autism.

Example:
He invited me to a gathering at someone else's house that he did not host. He also knew that I wanted to meet some new connections as well since I was recently rejected by a close friend not too long ago. However, It was during our time there that he appeared to enjoy holding a conversation with everyone else while seeming to enjoy holding the "Life of the Party" attitude.

Meanwhile if I even attempted to join in on the conversations with a group of people that he was involved in, he finished what he was saying and avoided me. He also did not have the courtesy to introduce me to any of the people who he hung out with.

When it came to sitting down at the dinner table he excluded me from the group conversations by talking non stop,

I finally grew fed up and called him out about dominating the conversation and he said "No you are doing that." He walked away from the table for a few minutes and came back. He asked if I was okay and I just left lose. "You know I seem to notice that everyone else in here seems to be more important." He said that he could not focus on me and was trying to mingle with everyone else. I was deeply hurt that he had invited me to a new setting and he could not even bother to make me feel welcome.

He has done this the last several times even though he insists that he's my friend. He also has never really seemed interested in texting me to see how I am doing, says he's mostly too busy for this or that to come to my things or says he's coming and often bails at the last minute, and never really invites me out to meet one on one.

If I even say anything he will give me excuses like "I was going to invite you out for coffee but I have been so busy." I know that's a lie because I have heard about him making time for this person or that one.