Sick of being the weirdo that no one loves

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21 Oct 2015, 3:49 pm

Just fed up. Feel like every time I meet someone new that I like I get rejected. I'm sick of relatives asking if I've met "anyone yet?"

Yet... like I'm not fulfilling a milestone that I am meant to reach.

Nope, no one likes me back yet... no one ever will...

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21 Oct 2015, 4:09 pm

Know how that feels but at least you meet people.

Hugs

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21 Oct 2015, 7:38 pm

sucks

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21 Oct 2015, 8:01 pm

I somewhat share your experience:

I only fell in love with 3 women, one at a time.

The first 2 rejected me on the spot, but the 3rd one has been playing hot and cold with me for a while.

Now, it seems that she does NOT want me at all either, and she is NOT going me any physical affection anymore!! !

I WANT A GIRLFRIEND SO f*****g BAD!! !! !!

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21 Oct 2015, 8:08 pm

Hopefully you can keep meeting people and eventually find someone as different as you are who you can mutually connect with.

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21 Oct 2015, 8:46 pm

I get what you're saying. I'm that guy in class whom girls laugh at when he's speaking. The one everyone tries tricking into saying "funny" things. I just can't say anything to be took seriously.

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21 Oct 2015, 9:05 pm

David Colby wrote:

I WANT A GIRLFRIEND SO f*****g BAD!! ! ! ! !

There's your problem. Women pick up on the neediness and are repulsed/scared.

Stop wanting/needing them and they'll come. It doesn't make sense at all, I know, but that's how it is.

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22 Oct 2015, 7:04 am

DailyPoutine1 wrote:

I get what you're saying. I'm that guy in class whom girls laugh at when he's speaking. The one everyone tries tricking into saying "funny" things. I just can't say anything to be took seriously.

With all due respect I'm twice your age and a bit. It's not at all the same thing. I feel like the older I get the more difficult it is, I'm just getting older and less attractive. Men my age don't want me, they want someone younger, prettier and more bubbly.

Although I do offer you a virtual hug. Being a teenager sucks.

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22 Oct 2015, 1:10 pm

hurtloam wrote:

Tell the rellies to stop asking and change the subject if they persist. Like, "you'll be among the first to know if I meet someone, so how about those Cubs?". Keep changing subject, over and over.

If you haven't already done so, you could ask the inquiring rellies to set you up with cute single girls -- surely some have a single young colleague, classmate or stepgrandaughter's friend. Plus keep doing the usual meeting people stuff -- take up an activity you enjoy that'll have girls who share your interests, online dating, get friends to introduce you, etc.

Bonne chance?

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24 Oct 2015, 10:10 am

I'm like you. I'm incredibly lonely and it looks like I'm going to stay that way.

I always think I'm showing interest in a girl when it turns out they find me "odd", "nerdy" or the latest one being "too open" and I don't realize I'm conveying that. I have the problem of sharing too much about myself because I can't understand the "logic" of "normal" people being that it's preferable to hide or not disclose things about yourself to potential mates.

I also assume women just aren't interested in me and sometimes another guy will later tell me that a particular girl was showing obvious signs and flirting but I didn't pick up on it. Even then I sometimes assume the guy telling me this is picking on me or just messing with me somehow.

I get it completely and being lonely really sucks.

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24 Oct 2015, 10:24 am

Finding somebody is only half the problem, keeping hold of them can be just as stressful. I'm not so sure it's worth it.

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24 Oct 2015, 10:32 am

lostproperty wrote:

Finding somebody is only half the problem, keeping hold of them can be just as stressful. I'm not so sure it's worth it.

I agree. The struggle to keep a relationship going is tiring and takes focus away from hobbies and interests anyway.

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24 Oct 2015, 11:49 am

hurtloam wrote:

Nope, no one likes me back yet... no one ever will...

I'm in that boat. I am hoping that I can stop caring, but I haven't yet.

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24 Oct 2015, 1:31 pm

You too is stealing the story of my life?

No respect for copyright anymore, duh.

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24 Oct 2015, 1:47 pm

MrsMartians wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

Katy, don't you think hurtloam is being a needy guy? Can't you sense something is leading to "entitlement" in his post?

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24 Oct 2015, 3:00 pm

Eisbaer wrote:

"Too open" is usually telling intensely personal details to a person you don't know very well. So uncomfy.

Odd and nerdy, you may as well embrace. I'm odd, the BF is odd, most of my friends are odd. My interests are somewhat odd. Non-odd friends would not enjoy steampunk, the occasional comic convention and hiking trips in Bhutan.

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