Too AS for WP?

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Has anyone else felt that they are too Aspie/AS even for this forum? I sometimes do.
I've always felt really that I am just on the edge of managing to be 'out', to communicate with people, and some days talking to people here is very easy (and even in the outside world, it is not so difficult, on good days)
Other days, I wonder what I'm doing even attempting it. Sometimes I read a thread and I either can't seem to process it well enough to fully understand what the poster means, or I want to post a reply and I can't find the words. It is so variable and often frustrating. Does anyone else feel like this?

I do. I read all these long, well-written posts and wonder how these folks can have so much to say to other people, and to be able to say it so well! It's hard for me to order and articulate my thoughts that well so quickly. Yet, I'm sure most of the folks here have some degree of AS. I think that AS affects people differently, and some are more inclined to seek social connections than others. My AS comes from my mother's side. She and her 6 siblings all have AS to some degree. My mom and uncle are very reclusive, but the rest are much more social, even though their AS symptoms are more severe and noticable to others.

I always feel like that.

Too Aspie? I don't know about that, but I do read comments from people that seem to be able to do and accomplish much more than I can. I used to be part of an Aspergers support group as a teenager and I learned that people are all over the place in functionality, and funtionality is rarely a linear thing in regards to people with aspergers. Some people don't talk in some situations and talk too much in others, some people just get into a mode where they drone on endlessly about their interest to anyone nearby. Still others get by pretty well in life until that one event happens that tosses everything out of whack. And there are infinite degerees in between. I'm new here but I don't feel too aspie. The people who can do more give me basic goals to aim for. I don't think to myself "that person is too aspie" either.

But I could be wrong, who knows.

That happens to me sometimes. I also feel guity because sometimes I don't read the really long posts.

I have always been an outcast even among outcasts.

Yeah, I know what you mean Apatura. I feel like that too.

Sometimes I can't engage/read posts, and when I do I've no idea what to write or I do but don't want to so I dont. I go through this daily with people. I dont think that makes me 'too aspie'. I find it easier to post because I'm here and you're there, and this is the easier option to communicate and share when I want to.

I've been waiting for a thread with a subject like this, because in my case it's quite the opposite. I was diagnosed over 10 years ago, but I feel that I'm not nearly AS enough for this site.

Everyone here has cases a hundred times more severe than what I seem to, and I don't have any of the problems everyone else is always talking about. I can never engage in any conversation here because I have nothing in common with anyone.

I can't give people advice because I haven't gone through things they have, and I can't really find any similar ground with anybody on here. Not to knock this site or anything, but it more often than not bores me.

I'm seriously doubting whether or not I'm actually an Aspie: my social skills are fine, I have tons of friends, I'm very expressive and emotional, I'm outgoing, don't have speech or self-esteem issues, people don't avoid me or tease me, and I don't have trouble "fitting in". Get the idea? Does that sound like an AS kid to you?

When I was first told about having AS at age 7, I had never met anyone else who had it, so I had no reason to doubt that I did. After coming to this place and seeing what everyone else is like, I have learned what Asperger's' really is, and now that I know, I'm probably going to want to get a rediagnosis.

Ditto.
I get days I just don't want to communicate at all on here by posting...and I have issues reading long posts. I take one look and find I cannot read it.

Yeah, I don't like staring at a monitor that deeply (I type with my eyes closed). But I'm not sure that this is an AS thing. I've heard this as a fairly common complaint on other boards as well. Anyhow, I try to condense my posts, and pack a lot of meaning under the words. SOmetimes, this results in misunderstandings, and I have to spell it all out (or ask on the recieving end).

I do like Inventor's long posts though. Unlike most, they tend to actually be parsimonious. They're usually carrying multiple meanings. It would just be easier if they were broken up. But I'll learn to read them.

You could be only very mildly autistic or maybe not at all. I must admit that a lot of the times I feel quite bored (or, occasionally, creeped out!) by some of the topics under discussion. Most people with Asperger's seem to be a good deal less socially advanced - even though I'm not confident or particularly good at talking to people. Other times I read things on here and I think "I wish you didn't share that with me" but it's all down to how able people are, I suppose.

LOL Calandale, ironically I think that's the longest post I've ever seen you write!

Several things come to mind. First, I have wondered if people who are diagnosed early, and are subject to whatever treatment is available to them, do better than those of us (myself included) who didn't find out about AS until well into adulthood and therefore had no benefit of these early services. I also think there is a division between the older and younger aspies because of this - we older folk have felt all our lives as if we didn't belong but never knew why. Whereas those of you with an early diagnosis knew why you might be a little different than the rest of the kids in your class.

The other thing I want to mention is that online personae can be very different from how we are in real life. If you met me, you would have no idea I was on the spectrum. Nor would I open up and share all the things I do in print here. I am very private in real life. My point is that you are getting glimpses of people who are sharing in a forum that is different than how people relate when face to face.

That being said, yes, there are many people here who I can not relate to at all, who seem opposite to me in every way. I met somebody from here and he was 180 degrees different from his online persona. But there are enough times that I read something and I can relate so well where nothing in my past every made any sense and yet somebody else has gone through the same experience, that I know beyond a doubt that I have finally found my planet.

The thing I learn more and more every day is the incredible diversity of us aspies. How NT's are going to rewrite the new diagnostic criteria, I don't know, because this diversity will make it difficult for them to categorize us. I am digressing so I will shut up now...

I typed a massive post full of nonsense for this thread and then when I'd almost finished I got the dreaded blue screen of death, my post lost forever. Well, I had to laugh. I'd spent about 30 minutes typing it and it was a total load of s**t, but that's not the point, everytime I try to do something, it gets ruined. It's tragically hilarious. Well, it's a good thing that you guys weren't subjected to reading through that post to be honest.
But anyway, back to the topic, I don't feel like I'm too AS, but I do feel like I don't quite fit. "I have always been an outcast even among outcasts." as Apatura put it. Couldn't have said it better myself.

I feel left out on here because I'm probably the only one who's autism is not aspergers and I also don't understand most of the posts here.

Royger you can join my club. I feel the same as you do. I think the point is that a LOT of us don't feel we belong anywhere, not even here. We're all on the wrong planet