Depressed about a bunch of stuff

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I'm depressed because I need someone to love who will love me back who I will think is the best thing in the world next to my son and who will think I am the best thing in the world (next to their children if they have any). I'm tired of my alt-right-ish parents finding me annoying for my slightly different opinions when all the while I bend over backwards to accomodate their spoken viewpoints and accept their right to free speech! Their spoken viewpoints are just complaining all the time about people who aren't perfect but are good people. My opinions are not controversial at all, but they say *I'm* whining when I say anything at all that isn't their opinion! And they tell me to shut up! So much for free speech for EVERYONE. My ex is bad too and my friends care about me but I'm not their favorite person.

I have a lot to look forward to but panic sometimes about the new stuff. I never used to do that! I also feel like maybe I CAN'T easily do the things I want to and plan to do in life... it's brainwashing from all those people that said I am an incapable person; I'm sure of it. I hope my old habits of thinking a lot and not paying attention due to all the thinking (and paying attention will be needed in my nursing course) will die and not hard, but easily.

In my experience, some things just have to be off-limits.
I do this with my relatives, who have basically opposite views to me.
I don't believe in "freedom of speech" as an excuse to say whatever you want regardless of how that damages others. Sometimes there's virtue in shutting up, and people have to understand that you have limits around these things, and not just hide behind "freedom of speech."
Thus in areas where we are all quite comfortable with our opinions, it just doesn't get raised around the other party. I don't mention how unethical and repugnant I find their racism, they don't comment on how disgusting they find anything not heterosexual. You just don't go there - it's a truce. Perhaps a similar approach would work for you.
I have no opinion on love that's going to be helpful. But if you're looking, there's certainly forums for that. Get yourself out there! It ain't just going to fall in your lap. Why not go on the hunt, proactively, if you're interested in finding romance? Maybe there's someone out there seeking same.

I am sorry to hear you feel down, Charity. My parents are similar because they've been brainwashed by the Bible Belt.

I also understand how others telling you that you are incapable is damaging since I suffer from that as well.

Thanks, guys. They call me a "Special Snowflake" as though I think I'm more special than others, but I don't... they're just calling me that because I defend gays, Indigenous people, autistic people, disabled people, etc. and because I said I was traumatized by their thinking I was so incapable!

Oh, and about freedom of speech, some people just know how to be tactful. Kids should be taught from a young age to express themselves fully but be tactful about it. But also that if one is unable to be tactful they should also understand that they still have the right to express their feelings; what if it's something important or important to them? They need to communicate too. But harrassing the same individual person with the same statements that are offensive to that person over and over without adding anything to elaborate is not okay, I agree with that! It's harrassment!