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Someone told me online on another forum they felt what I said was patronizing and I didn't need to explain to them like they are a toddler about why they should eat their green peas so I blocked her. I feel like I can't communicate or talk right without coming off wrong and I know I should take that is criticism and take their word for I still have work to do with myself so I won't come off wrong. But I also feel I should block her so I won't bother her again and not have to worry about her but then I feel I am just running from my problem and if no one can criticize me, how else will I work on myself to be a better person and have better social skills? But instead I get anxiety and I feel worthless and like I can't communicate right without coming off wrong and it's that person's fault they feel that way about me. But yet a few weeks back someone told me I express myself fine and then today this happens so it's very confusing? How can I be fine with my communication if people online are still seeing me as a troll or a bully or a patronizer, etc.? To me that isn't being fine and it tells me I still suck in social skills and communication so it's like I hate being reminded how incompetent I am and hate being reminded how impaired I am and then get told I am fine. So confusing. I will believe I am fine when all this stops.

This also isn't the first time I had blocked someone, I also blocked someone the other day because she downplayed my issues so I blocked her. I don't need to be made to feel crazy and be gaslighted about myself and be made to feel I am whining.

But then in the end blocking someone always makes me feel better because I had erased something from my life and now I have nothing to worry about and poof that person is history and doesn't exist anymore.

Patronizing is in the eye of the beholder these days. But, if you are worried about your social skills, work to improve them to your liking (I amn't saying that you should do this, because I have never considered your writings here to be patronizing), so it is just an idea. Meanwhile, ignore those who fling criticism.